We should stop using the word addiction and shift to a new word – bonding.” – Professor Peter Cohen
Our approach combines gentleness with power, and softness with strength to care for the vulnerability that lies underneath overeating – and to strengthen the self leadership that enables you to set loving limits with food.
A free, introductory video course that maps out the four stages of healing a sugar addiction, explains why a focus on control and will power compounds a sugar addiction, and how to move beyond a sugar abstinence into a conscious, mature relationship with sugar.
A free, introductory video course that dives into the needs and emotions that drive overeating and binge eating. Gain a new perspective, and understand the path to healing.
When we’re feeling overwhelmed by intense emotions, panicked, insecure, unsafe, or flooded, we can feel strong cravings and urges to overeat, binge, or seek out food. Here’s help to recover after a binge, or help you prevent an imminent binge.
Next class starts Feb 25, 2019!
When you attempt to make changes in how you eat, care for your body, or care for your self, you may bump into your Inner Rebel – the part of you that strongly says “No!” The result? You may get stuck in collapse, resistance or inner conflict – fighting amongst these various parts and needs. In this course, you’ll learn how to soften this inner conflict, understand the needs underneath the inner rebel, and playfully work with this part of you rather than against it. This will help you follow through on the changes you want to make and express a greater sense of power in your life.
The Heart of Food is a 28 day support program to soften anxiety about sugar and food. Instead of a focus on behavior – eating a certain way – you’ll learn tools to deepen compassion, nourish resilience, and soften the anxiety and obsession with food. Your relationship with food and sugar can feel more nourishing and less anxious – and you can feel less tension about getting it ‘right.’
You’ll also learn some of the primary emotions and drives that feed overeating, how to approach the vulnerability that lies underneath food, and new ways of relating to these unmet needs. This course is video/audio based with written transcripts.
If you use sugar for stress relief, self soothing, or to care for your emotions, there’s hope. Move from wanting to eat less sugar into actually doing it with The 30 Day Lift. Rather than relying on will power or control to create change, you’ll learn practical, hands on ways of using compassion, acceptance, and connection to gently support yourself into new ways of relating to the needs and feelings that drive your cravings.
This course is our most popular and has been taken by hundreds of folks from around the world. Students say they appreciate its daily support and gentle approach.
For many people, overeating, food obsessions (like a sugar obsession), and binge eating are not just “bad” habits or coping strategies but emotional bonds – a well-intentioned attempt to feel safe, secure and connected in the face of isolation, overwhelming emotion, powerlessness, and pain. This emotional bond with food – and the needs that drive it – can be so strong that it overrides a need for health or sobriety. Gain insight on how to heal it, and guidance on how to replace it with true, secure refuge.
More about our approach:
Our approach can help you in 3 key areas:
- Changing how you see – learn a different way of understanding food compulsions – as a cry for connection and help – that normalizes the behavior, softens the fear, and offers a map for healing. Learn how to use compassion and connection to build the container for growth: loving relationship, or attachment.
- Changing how you relate – learn how to use connection to support yourself in difficult situations like when you want to binge. This is an important switch: responding to your needs, emotions, challenges, and triggers with compassionate, caring support rather than fear/anxiety, disgust, contempt, frustration, collapse/helplessness, or self hatred.
- Changing how you grow – learn how to use the power of connection and the safety of relationship to support your growth out of food compulsions. You’ll also learn what “prunes out” the desire to overeat or binge and how to support this process. Connection makes healing and growth easier, less stressful, and possible.
The fruits of this approach appear “up on the surface” as changes in what and how you eat, changes in how you rely on food, and a new way of responding to the urge to binge or overeat.
Because this approach is grounded in development, not habit change, you can expect to see these shifts appear in multiple areas in your life, and not only with food. Our approach is non-violent, gentle, and grounded in deep respect for our human vulnerability.