In a Q&A discussion about my course ‘When Food Is Your Mother,’ I answer the question of why we so often relate to foods (especially sugary-foods) as a nurturing mother-kind of figure. Ultimately, when food is a mother, it’s a substitute: a way to care for our relational, emotional, and physical needs.
It’s where food derives its soothing, calming power.
Over time, this relationship with food becomes an emotional bond – what developmental psychology calls an attachment relationship. The power of this bond is why food compulsions like overeating or binge eating can be so “sticky” and powerful – and why you can continue to overeat or binge even when you consciously yearn to do differently.
Because of this bond, overeating is not healed by stopping the “problem” behavior (the overeating or binge eating) but by healing the root – the bond with food itself.
Curious? Watch the video and learn more:
- About my own experiences with food and body obsession
- Why food can be like a mother, lover, best friend
If you want to learn more about healing your emotional bond with food, you can explore my course, When Food is Your Mother.