What The Book of Love is about

The Book of Love is a playful class to reconnect to your essence: to help you birth your deeper story. In this 6 week class, you’ll explore weekly themes about connection and healing. Then you'll take each theme and fill a blank book with images, stories, collages, symbols and more to create a Book of Love, a chronicle and witness to your soul’s story. 

Art, story, poetry and creativity are powerful ways of supporting resilience - the new life that longs to rise in you, what lies underneath the painful feelings of there's "something's wrong with me." 

The Book of Love helps you reconnect with your deepest self, soften shame, and embolden courage - supporting your healing journey with food or any other challenge. I'm honored to share Nina's story with you below.

Nina's story with The Book of Love

"I have such warm and positive feelings about my time in The Book of Love class. I keep my own Book of Love on my bookshelf and it is one of my most cherished possessions. It is still a work in progress and I enjoy revisiting it when the spirit moves me. 

When I started the class I was completely shut down and in tremendous pain. I was still reeling from my divorce and the dismantling of my life and family as a result of that divorce. I was struggling to move forward in a positive way. I was lacking self-love and self-forgiveness.

The experience of examining life, purpose, and love was the beginning of a beautiful journey for me. It was my springboard to a positive outlook and ability to cherish myself. I'm not going to say I got there overnight, because I didn't.

But this class turned me in the right direction, took off my blindfold, and whispered words of encouragement in my ear as it pushed me off on my journey of self-love. I felt like a weight had been lifted off of me, and I could see a whole new and different world in front of me. I stuck my head out of my dark cave because I was tired of being there, and this class showed me where to go next.

Two years later I'm still on that journey, but much closer to the finish line than ever before.  Thank you for placing this class on my path. It was the perfect thing at the perfect time for me."

- Nina S., Silver Spring, Maryland, US

This class may be a good fit for you if:

• you're recovering from an addiction, illness, or difficult time 
• you're in the midst of a life transition or grieving a loss
• you're caretaking for others and feel lost and overwhelmed
• you're caring for a chronic illness or mental health condition 
• you yearn for self compassion, healing and wholeness 
• you've done lots of healing work and feel exhausted
• you want something creative, expressive, and playful to support other kinds of healing work 
• you enjoy playing in the realm of soul 
• you long for connection with yourself and others 

The Book of Love is a playful way to bridge places of separation, to reconnect with the story underneath the story. While this class can help you soften the shame of overeating or other overconsuming, it can also be used to care for any area in your life where you're feeling guilt, loss, sorrow or self blame.

People have been very creative!

People have made 'books of love' to:

• say goodbye and thank you to a dying parent
• reconnect with a loved one after going through a challenging time
• say goodbye to a beloved home
• grieve and honor the ending of a marriage
• mourn the pain of an addiction or compulsion
• nurture the dream of writing a book
• deepen their courage through a health diagnosis
• heal a painful body image
• and bring compassion to the suffering of chronic illness

We love hearing all the ways people use this class to nurture their particular place of soul healing, and we look forward to witnessing your creation! You can read about Joanna's inspiring experience with The Book of Love below.

Joanna's story 

Today it’s my mother’s birthday, she would have turned 81. She passed away in August 2019 after a long struggle with cancer and my father followed her quite closely, he had dementia, passing away in February this year.  

So it’s been an incredibly tough last few years, during which I’ve followed 3 of [Karly's] courses - Emerge (twice), The Book of Love and Align.  All of these courses taught me so much - I feel like Karly is one of my ‘other mothers’!  And in the words of Penny Harter’s poem, a line really resonates: 

In the Zen tradition, When the student is ready, the teacher appears.  Karly appeared when I was ready and in need of a different kind of support in my life.  

We (me and my 4 siblings) have spent the last few months dealing with the family home and everything in it as we prepare it for sale - the family home for nearly all of my life - and as I was looking at all of the objects, books, fabrics and everything collected there over the years, I have thought about the Book of Love and how I might create a book of love out of this painful experience of saying goodbye to this very special family home.

Not long after the Book of Love course, I decided to make a scroll for my mother, while she was still alive (but deteriorating fast) to ‘talk’ to her about the things I value which she had given me.  I found it hard to express this verbally with her so I decided to write and illustrate my thoughts (something which had come out of working on the Book of Love course.

Now that my mother has passed away, I think there is a second one I can make now - thinking of other aspects of her and her wisdom I can add and also perhaps the wisdoms I’ve gleaned from other mothers. I am hugely grateful.

- Joanna, U.K.

Class details + how it works

Each week you'll explore a theme for The Book of Love. For each of these modules, you'll have an audio to listen to, a story or meditation, and prompts to create pages in your book. You'll do this at home, on your own.

Then we meet each week on zoom on for creative, playful webinars. During the webinars, we'll split our time between creating in our books, asking questions, and sharing/listening to others. These are playful, warm and fun!

Webinars are from 1-2:30 pm central time (that's 7-8:30 pm for most of our European friends.) Here are the dates for the webinars:

• Thursday, August 15th 
• Thursday, August 22nd
• Thursday, August 29th
• Thursday, September 5th
• Thursday, September 12th
• Thursday, September 19th

We also have an online forum where you can connect with others, share what's arising for you, share your book and creations, and more.

The course curriculum

Module 1: Walking the road home: welcoming, belonging, and wholeness

"To be human is to belong. Belonging is a circle that embraces everything ." - John O' Donohue

In this module, you'll reconnect with your heart, explore what home and belonging mean to you, and create a space of welcome for those parts of yourself that have been unloved, unfriended, or outcast. 

This module is especially helpful if you feel disconnected from yourself, if you long for greater tenderness, or feel like you've 'fallen off' your path. 

Module 2: Love's warm embrace: opening to connection, community, and holding

"Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it - and to embrace them." - Rumi

In this module, you'll be widening and deepening the circle of love that surrounds you. You'll reconnect with those places where you have known connection and belonging, and you'll gently connect to those tender places that have not known love but who long to be seen, to receive support and care, and to receive love. 

This module is especially helpful if you have a hard time asking for help or receiving love from others. 

Module 3:  Singing your song back to you: grieving what was lost, listening for the deeper story, and touching ground 

"Where there is sorrow, there is holy ground." - Oscar Wilde

In this module you'll create a space for grief to flow, seek out those talismans and reminders - who am I underneath these changing and ebbing waves? - and release shame and blame for your human journey. You'll reflect on how 'the voice of separation' shows up in your life and how to listen to the deeper story - the voice of connection. 

This module is especially helpful if you need support for the grieving process, if you feel like you've been emotionally stuck, blocked or frozen, or conversely, if you've felt emotionally overwhelmed. 

Module 4:  Creativity and courage: nourishing the greening, the new life that longs to be born 

"Good people, most royal greening verdancy, rooted in the sun, you shine with radiant light." - Hildegard of Bingen

In this module you'll be exploring your yearnings - the desires that lay within your heart - and your creative urges - the new life that longs to be born. You'll dance with the metaphors of seeds and seedlings, dragons and treasures, and courage and courting. 

This module is especially helpful if you want to reconnect with your passions and desires, if you feel disconnected from your sense of purpose, or you feel like your struggles have kept you from connecting with others in sharing your gifts. 

Module 5:  Beauty and blessing: we enter dancing, we were born for joy

"I believed I wanted to be a poet, but deep down, I wanted to be a poem." - Jaime Gil de Biedma

In this module, you'll be a lover and finder of beauty, gratitude, praise and joy, opening to the blessing that your own birth and being offers to our world as well as the blessings that you have received from others. 

This module is especially helpful if you feel disconnected from the beauty of life, if you feel worn down by your challenges, or if you're wanting to reconnect with the everyday sacredness of life. 

From a book to a class

In 2018, I created the first Book of Love class, offering it to a group of 26 soulful women. They, too found healing, strength, and compassion in creating their books; celebration, and courage, and joy. (You can read some of their stories throughout this page.)

Now I offer this course regularly. If you feel moved to join us for this year's cohort, we'd be honored to gather you into the group that's forming.

The most important thing

When we're in the middle of our struggles it's easy to collapse into self criticism or overdoing, striving to 'fix the self.' These attempts to 'work on ourselves' are exhausting. Often, we try so hard to 'fix ourselves' because we think it's the only way to eradicate our pain or to ease the anxiety of our shame.

In Western culture, many of our models are about thinking or working our way to healing. But it doesn't work - it often feels like pouring water onto concrete, wondering why it doesn't soak into the soil and lead to new blooms.

While there's a time and place for inner work, overdoing leaves us feeling frustrated, depleted and anxious. And if it's missing the 'holding,' the companioning that helps us feel safe, it feels awful. 

Rather than more inner work, our souls may be crying out for exploration, imagination, and psychological rest. One of the most beautiful and tender ways we can give ourselves this holding is through self compassion.

Self compassion helps us meet the edges of our suffering with softness and strength. It nurtures a deeper acceptance of ourselves, where our wounds and experiences become more neutral, without pride or shame:  something we care for, and something we may need help for, but not something we feel driven to eliminate.

The Book of Love was created with these ideas in mind - to create a holding space for your story, and a holding space for the compassion that will arise to meet it (and in fact, that already does.)

While The Book of Love is a class, and a class with 'course materials,' it's meant to be restful,  not work - playful, creative and expressive. It's a soulful approach to healing that trusts the healing power of creation, symbol and story - a natural companion to other types of healing work like therapy, contemplative and spiritual practices, trauma therapy, meditation, body based practices like yoga, dancing, or martial arts, and somatic practices. 

I think of The Book of Love akin to 'soul book making,' an atlas of the inner realms. And even though this class will be creative, you do not have to be an artist or think of yourself as creative to join the class - just willing to play.

Christy's story

I wanted to tell you a little more about the importance of your Book of Love class. My quiet daughter Beth, 16, is my 3rd daughter. My 2nd daughter has had a very difficult road these past five years. She’s been the loudest as far as needs in our family.

Beth has been my quiet daughter. She has had to navigate her path many times on her own because of the crisis that arose. It’s been so difficult to communicate and build a deeper relationship with her because of anger she holds with regard to feelings of abandonment.

She’s been very angry and closed off for a long time as well as struggling with depression herself. She’s felt isolated from friendships and like she doesn’t fit in anywhere. She’s been lonely and feeling very hopeless.

When I heard about your class I thought of it for me but then when I really settled in I felt like we needed to do it together. After extending the invitation to Beth she said she’d think about it. I showed her your video clip and she said she’d be willing to do it.

The time we spent together watching the videos, listening to the readings, and recordings was priceless. We shared memories and learned about ways that we feel loved. We still work on our books together when we have free time in the evenings and many times it’s initiated by Beth.

She is seeking out and reading poetry now as well as finding moments to share with me good things that have happened to her throughout the day. We have a point of connection now that is based on love and not crisis or drama. I have learned so much about her and she is more open to hearing good things from me as well. It’s truly beautiful.

And her follow up story:

Last year was an extremely painful year, and at times I was hanging on by a thread. I can’t tell you how many times I pulled out my book and felt the universe speaking to me through it, telling me that I have so many good things in my life to hang on too and not to fall into the darkness...

The Book of Love, on more than one occasion, kept me rooted in Love. Thank you for this beautiful space that you created almost as a foreshadowing of what was to come and what I needed to anchor me in my life. It’s also tremendously helped my daughter and I stay focused on the good that’s all around us.

Gentleness and compassion have been areas that have been growing in me for years now. Crisis has a way of either drawing that out or hardening. I want to express my heartfelt thanks to you for helping me create safe spaces to continue to allow the softening and beauty to unfold.

- Christy S., U.S.

Frequently asked questions

How long do I have access to the course materials?

The class is hosted online, on our Mighty Network. You have unlimited online access to the class materials during the class and after the class ends.

How much time should I set aside for the class?

Plan on 90 minutes for the weekly webinars, and another 90 minutes for the course materials and to play with your book in creation. This class is meant to be something you want to do, not something you have to do.

I've taken other classes with Karly. How is this class different?

This class explores many of the themes of Growing Humankindness – self compassion, mindfulness, and inner listening. But it does so through play. This class is intentionally designed to be a playful, nourishing, and creative way of entering the soul's sacred ground. 

How do I know if this class is right for me?

You do not have to be an artist or think of yourself as creative to join the class! If you enjoy reflecting upon your experience, becoming more intimate with your inner life, playing with creativity, and feel comfortable in an online environment, then this class is a good fit for you. 

Can this class heal trauma?

We have so much empathy for the ways trauma impacts your relationship with yourself! While The Book of Love can be a helpful companion for your healing journey, it's not designed to heal trauma. 

Do you offer refunds?

We want you to find the right fit for your needs, whether that's with us or with someone else. If you have any questions about the class, please reach out. We're here to help! 

You can get a full refund for this class up until the start date of the class. After the start date, you can get a full refund through August 21st minus a $25 administrative fee. After the 21st we don't offer refunds.

A closing blessing for you

When we tell our food stories, our stories of loss, and our stories of compulsion, often the first layer of telling is of shame, frustration, or separation.

But underneath this surface telling there is so much tenderness; beauty, courage and strength. Whether or not you choose to join us for The Book of Love, I hope you keep a keen ear trained to this deeper story, and to trust it.

May those fontanels of your being be cradled in remembrance and wondering. And may you trust the way the soul is guiding you into descent, into your deeper story.

Our journeys may arise through some uncomfortable messengers – grief, fear, anger, and sadness. And no matter what form our telling takes, when we touch our stories and our wounds directly, when we dress and tend them like something beloved, we come to a new understanding. 

We realize that our wounds are not what we think they are – and that neither are we.

To the sacred ground under your feet, and to the deeper story that lives within you,  Karly