If you self soothe with food or sugar to manage anxiety, care for unresolved trauma, or to lower stress, and you want to care for your needs without overeating, we can help.
We weave together the worlds of relational neuroscience, self compassion, and mindfulness/loving presence so you can gently let go of overeating – and gently soften the shame you feel about your complex relationship with food.
There’s a way to soften overeating or a sugar fixation without white knuckling it or being harsh with yourself, and we’d love to share this path with you.
We don’t offer food plans, menus, or nutritional guidance about what to eat – there are others who offer this good work. Our home study courses, group classes and support groups help you change how you relate to the suffering that feeds the overeating.
This relationship is the womb that unravels painful habits with food, heals shame, and softens self judgment and criticism. We’re here to help you reconnect with your wholeness so you can soften painful habits like overeating – and so you can live from a place of self trust, forgiveness, and strength. Learn more about our approach here.
How to begin working with us
If you’re new to Growing Humankindness, we’d love for you to get to know us. Go here to learn about my, Karly’s, journey and go here to learn about the psychological and spiritual roots of Growing Humankindness.
We also invite you into our free welcome room in the Growing Humankindness Mighty Network where you’ll get access to helpful resources like The Binge Rescue Worksheet, our most popular tool for binge eating, along with talks, webinars, and more.
When you’re ready to go deeper and want more help
If we’re the right fit for you and you want to work with us, we offer a couple different levels of support.
- Home study courses – online home study courses that you can begin at any time
- Group classes – we offer 2-3 group cohort classes throughout the year
- The Growing Humankindness community – this intimate support group offers twice monthly zoom gatherings, Listening Partners, and an online forum to give you lots of emotional support and witnessing as you heal. It’s a 6 month commitment (from January through June and from July through December) and is a closed group.
The difference between these options is the level of support. Home study courses have the same course materials as our cohort classes but don’t include weekly webinars and a forum. The most support is in the Growing Humankindness community.
Our offerings are hosted on the Growing Humankindness Mighty Network, a private, beautifully cultivated space where you have unlimited online access.
If you don’t want to pay by credit card, we accept checks for many of our offerings if you’d prefer to pay by check. Please reach out to us here to learn how to pay by check. In your email, kindly let us know the course or class you’d like to buy.
Where to start
If you feel moved to take a class with us, the first place to begin is Soften a Sugar Habit with Presence, Compassion and Grief. This class offers four foundational tools – presence, compassion, grief, and loving limits – that we explore in all our classes and that can help you transform your patterns with food.
This class will help you understand the ‘how’ of how you change your relationship with food and relate to cravings. Soften is offered as a home study course that you can begin at any time and is often on our group class schedule. This class has special pricing ($100 USD for the home study course and $150 for the group class) so you can get a taste of our approach and work.
After taking the Soften class, the next class we recommend is When Food is Your Mother. Relational neuroscience has helped us understand that our addictions – including food addictions – are emotional bonds – places of safety, warmth and ‘holding’ that we turn to when we’re overwhelmed by pain, alarm, or distress.
In moments of overwhelm, this emotional bond with food – and the needs that drive it – can override other needs, such as a need for health or nurturing limits. In When Food is Your Mother, you’ll learn more about this new understanding of addiction and ways you can nurture the healing process.
When Food is Your Mother is offered as a home study course that you can begin at any time ($250 USD) and is often on our group class schedule. The next group class of When Food is Your Mother will begin in 2025, although I’m offering a 3 hour training on this class in June of 2024.
Where to go next
After taking Soften and When Food is Your Mother, the garden path opens to our other offerings, and where you go next is a matter of which course speaks to you and where you want more support.
Align is for you if you reactively push against help and support and get stuck in feelings of resistance – “No, you can’t make me!” – when you try to set limits with food.
You’ll learn how to soften the inner conflict between the part of you that wants to change and the part of you that pushes back. Defusing this conflict will help you follow through on the changes you want to make with food, set limits, and express a greater sense of power and agency in your life. This home study course is $200 USD.
Emerge: Create a New Habit is for you if you want gentle yet powerful emotional support to navigate the transition into a low or no sugar diet. You’ll receive daily emotional support and learn how to apply self compassion to the process of habit change with sugar, so you can create more nourishing self talk and build resilience, that internal sense of, “I trust myself to move through this.” This home study course is $200 USD.
Listen: Gentle Ways to Support Your Healing with Food covers seven core areas where nearly everyone struggles in their healing journey. These core areas are caring for neediness, befriending cravings, caring for places of collapse and powerlessness, becoming more comfortable with the ebb and flow of emptiness and satiation, limits, receiving care rather than caretaking, and softening perfectionism. This home study course is $200 USD.
Nurturing Your Inner Mother is a year long intensive to transform your inner world from shame, judgment, and criticism into a warm, welcoming inner refuge where self soothing with food, isolation, and self judgment can gently fall away.
Each month has a theme – like blessing the body or befriending the outcast – to help you soften shame, rest in your wholeness, and deepen your courage and compassion. This home study course is $30 USD a month for 12 months for a total price of $360.
Our best value – the home study bundle
If several of our courses appeal to you, we offer a home study bundle where you get 4 of our home study courses Align: Heal the Battle with Your Inner Rebel; Emerge: Create a New Habit, Soften a Sugar Habit with Presence, Compassion and Grief and When Food is Your Mother for one price. This is a savings of over $450.
Here are the payment options for the home study bundle:
Our group cohort classes
We offer 2-3 group cohort classes throughout the year from our library of courses where you can join others for weekly webinars and connect on an online forum. This can be helpful if you’re wanting to have a place where you can ask questions, listen to others’ stories, share your experience, and learn with a group.
Group classes have the same materials as our home study classes but bring this extra layer of interactivity and connection. We get a lot of positive feedback about our classes and enjoy creating a warm, welcoming, safe space to learn, grow and explore.
Group classes range from $200 USD to $400 USD, depending on their length. You can see a list of upcoming classes on our calendar here.
Our ongoing support group
If you want to connect with others and are looking to go deeper into your healing journey, you might like our support group, the Growing Humankindness community.
This intimate group – what we call a ‘sangha of the heart – is filled with generous, kind, soulful women (and sometimes a few men) who want to gently heal their relationship with food and become more compassionate with themselves.
The Growing Humankindness community is similar to our group classes in that there’s a forum and regular webinars. But rather than stopping and starting, it’s an ongoing offering. Greater intimacy often develops between group members as they stay together over a longer time period.
The group is filled with helping professionals, artists, meditators, parents, and other dive deepers who love having a place where they can rest, receive care, connect with others, and listen to their hearts.
The Growing Humankindness community includes:
- a forum to connect with others
- Listening Partners for regular emotional support
- webinars where you can ask questions, share vulnerably, and connect
- access to our entire library of courses – Align: Heal the Battle with Your Inner Rebel, The Book of Love, Emerge: Create a New Habit, Listen: Gentle Ways to Support Your Healing with Food, Nurturing the Inner Mother, our year long intensive, Soften a Sugar Habit with Presence, Compassion and Grief, and When Food is Your Mother
- and a warm container to help ‘hold you’ as you heal
The community is $125 USD per month with a 6 month commitment and is limited to 20 spots. Learn more about The Growing Humankindness community here.
I work with a small number of people on a 1 on 1 basis. Most of my 1 on 1 work is with people who are working through a course or members of the support group who want additional care.
To become a 1 on 1 client, please go to this page to learn more about this process and to sign up for a free introductory call. These calls are a chance for us to learn more about each other and to see if we’re a good fit. If we’re the right fit, and if I have availability, you have the option to become a 1 on1 companioning client.
*** Friends, my 2024 companioning spots are currently full. Kindly go here to be added to the wait list.
How long does it take to heal?
One of the most common questions I hear is, How long does it take to heal?
It’s a good question – and one that tends to arise when we’re feeling overwhelmed, frustrated, or at our wit’s end. We long for relief, and to know that healing is possible.
While each person’s journey is unique – filled with its own timing, heart, and wisdom – I’ve found it takes a couple years to nurture and support the healing process that softens protectors like food. It’s a developmental process, and it needs patience, support, gentleness, and time.
People can feel overwhelmed by this number. And I think it’s important to be honest about the healing journey so we can orient ourselves to the process.
This is one of the main reasons Growing Humankindness offer an ongoing support group: we respect the time it takes to heal, how others support us, and the wisdom of the healing process.
During this window, several important things are happening. You’re supporting your body, nervous system, heart and mind in:
- feeling safe, the foundational need for healing
- softening self attack, perfectionism, shame and self blame
- cultivating the compassion, patience, and curiosity that supports healing
- moving out of isolation and into connection with others
- pruning out what doesn’t work
- grieving the losses that live underneath overeating
- and strengthening your capacity to be with discomfort and feel uncomfortable emotions
We respect your time, money, energy, and dreams of healing, and we want you to get the support you need. If you have any questions, please reach out. We’re here to help, whether you choose our services or another’s.
We bow our hearts, bend our knees, and tune our ears to the beauty in your journey, to the longings in your heart, and to the mercy that holds us. As many have said, “the work of one is the work of all.” Your desire to ease your suffering eases the suffering of all of us. For that, we thank you.
With warmth and sincerity, Karly and the Growing Humankindness team