If you self soothe with food or sugar to care for overwhelm, trauma, or loss, and you want to care for your needs in more nourishing ways, we can help.
We weave together the worlds of relational neuroscience, soulful exploration, and presence to soften self blame, criticism, and shame so that you can soften overeating, deepen self trust, and love, connect and give freely.
We don’t offer food plans, menus, or nutritional guidance about what to eat – there are others who offer this work. Our offerings help you change how you relate to your suffering – what disentangles painful habits, softens separation and nurtures new life. Learn about our approach here.
Our offerings

There are so many kinds of support available today! Before we work together, you may want to get to know more about our approach so you can sense if we’re the right fit for you. You can learn about my, Karly’s, journey here and how Growing Humankindness came to be.
- You can also sign up for our newsletter
- Read articles on our website
- And join the free welcome room in the Growing Humankindness Mighty Network. Here you can find our free resources like webinar recordings and the Binge Rescue Worksheet.
If we’re the right fit for you and you want more help, we offer three levels of support:
- Home study courses, which you can take at any time (learn more below)
- An ongoing membership community, which includes cohort group classes
- And 1 on 1 companioning support
The difference between these options is the level of support. Home study courses don’t include the interactivity and support that’s woven into the community – webinars, a place to ask questions, sharing circles, group cohorts for classes, and a place to connect with others.
And one on one companioning clients receive the most support, with weekly check ins and private calls.
Our offerings are hosted on the Growing Humankindness Mighty Network, a safe, beautifully cultivated, private, ad free space where you have unlimited online access.
The primary way we offer support is the Growing Humankindness membership community. The community is filled with generous, kind, soulful women (and sometimes a few men) who want to gently heal their relationship with food.
The community includes:
- a forum to connect with others
- Listening Partners for regular emotional support
- webinars where you can ask questions, share vulnerably, and connect
- access to our entire library of courses – Align: Heal the Battle with Your Inner Rebel, The Book of Love, Emerge: Create a New Habit, Listen: Gentle Ways to Support Your Healing with Food, and When Food is Your Mother
- group cohort classes – a structured, economical way to go through our courses (see the list above)
- and a warm container to help ‘hold you’ as you heal
Learn more about the membership community here.
Home study courses
If you’re not wanting a community or the structure of a group, you can take a home study course. Our home study courses are available at any time and offer support for key areas of struggle.
Align: Heal the Battle with Your Inner Rebel
Align is for you if you reactively push against help and support and get stuck in feelings of resistance – “No, you can’t make me!” – when you try to make positive changes with food and other areas of your life.
In this course, you’ll learn how to soften the inner conflict between the part of you that wants to change and the part of you that pushes back. Defusing this conflict will help you follow through on the changes you want to make, set healthy limits, and express a greater sense of power and agency in your life.
Emerge – Create a New Habit
If you overuse sugar for stress relief, to care for your emotions, or to self regulate, this course will help you change your eating habits with gentleness and insight. You’ll receive daily emotional support and learn how to apply self compassion to the process of habit change, so you can create more nourishing self talk and build resilience, that internal sense of, “I trust myself to move through this.”
This course is our most popular and has been taken by thousands from around the world since 2012. *Note – this course used to be called The 30 Day Lift. It was renamed and revised in 2019 as Emerge: Create a New Habit.
When Food Is Your Mother
We tend to think of overeating or binge eating as a ‘bad habit.’ But relational neuroscience has helped us understand that our addictions – including food addictions – are emotional bonds – places of safety, warmth and ‘holding’ that we turn to when we’re overwhelmed by pain, alarm, or distress.
In moments of overwhelm, this emotional bond with food – and the needs that drive it – can override other needs, such as a need for health or nurturing limits. In When Food is Your Mother, you’ll learn more about this new understanding of addiction and ways you can nurture the healing process.
Home study bundle
If you’re interested in more than one home study course we offer a home study bundle where you get all 3 of our home study courses for 1 payment of $350 USD or two payments of $175 USD. (If you bought the courses separately they’d be $650 USD.)
Individual support and companioning
In addition to our group offerings, I work with people 1 on 1, which you can find out about here. Most of my 1 on 1 work is with people who are working through a course or members of the Growing Humankindness community who want additional support and care. This extra support can make all the difference!
To become a 1 on 1 client, please go to this page here to learn more about this process and to sign up for a free introductory call. These calls are a chance for us to learn more about each other and to see if we’re a good fit. If we’re the right fit, you have the option to become a 1 on1 companioning client.
Companioning clients who sign up for 3 months of support also receive a complimentary membership in the Growing Humankindness community. Pairing 1 on 1 support with group support and access to the library of courses can be a powerful combination.
I often have a waiting list for my 1 on 1 support as spots are limited. As spots open up, we gladly offer them to you.
How long does it take to heal?
One of the most common questions we hear is, How long does it take to heal?
It’s a good question – and one that tends to arise when we’re feeling overwhelmed, frustrated, or at our wit’s end. We long for relief, and to know that healing is possible.
While each person’s journey is unique – filled with its own timing, heart, and wisdom – we’ve found it takes a couple years to nurture and support the healing process that softens protectors like food. It’s a developmental process, and it needs patience, support, gentleness, and time.
People can feel overwhelmed by this number. And we think it’s important to be honest about the healing journey. So often we want healing in six weeks or by reading a book. And yet we recognize the truth.
This is one of the main reasons we offer a membership community: we respect the time it takes to heal, how others support us, and the wisdom of the healing process.
During this window, several important things are happening. You’re supporting your body, nervous system, heart and mind in:
- feeling safe, the foundational need for healing
- softening self attack, perfectionism, shame and self blame
- cultivating the compassion, patience, and curiosity that supports healing
- moving out of isolation and into connection with others
- pruning out what doesn’t work
- grieving the losses that live underneath overeating
- and strengthening your capacity to be with discomfort and feel uncomfortable emotions
Closing blessing
We respect your time, money, energy, and dreams of healing, and we want you to get the support you need.
If you have any questions, please reach out. We’re here to help, whether you choose our services or another’s.
Please go here to read our refund policy, privacy policy, terms and conditions, and more. We’re proud of our offerings and welcome all feedback and questions.
We bow our hearts, bend our knees, and tune our ears to the beauty in your journey, to the longings in your heart, and to the mercy that holds us. As many have said, “the work of one is the work of all.” Your desire to ease your suffering eases the suffering of all of us. For that, we thank you.
With warmth and sincerity, Karly and the Growing Humankindness team