Compassionate, timely support
Soften stress and overwhelm without self soothing in sugar
In an uncertain time, connection matters more than ever
When life feels overwhelming
Here as our world turns, and as we face so much uncertainty, you may be feeling extra stressed and overwhelmed.
You may find yourself checking the news every few minutes, back and forth. You may wonder how you can help or feel like you're not doing enough.
You may feel helpless or flooded with compassion fatigue.
You may feel bored at home. You may feel unmoored, uprooted from your daily schedule and the routines that kept you grounded and rooted.
Your may be separated from your favorite gym or yoga class, the normal way you destress.
You may have extra pressures with children at home or concerns about elderly parents. You may be worrying about your finances, and how you and your loved ones will get through.
A sign that you need more support
In the wake of the pandemic, you may find yourself turning to sugar more than usual to self soothe, care for boredom, or to feel calm. In fact, it's become a common joke how we're bingeing on Netflix, chocolate, or extra glasses of wine to cope.
You may worry that you're overdoing it. Chocolate treats may be turning into non stop snacking.
This can create a feeling of helplessness - like everything is impossible or out of control. Now, on top of your other anxieties, you're feeling anxious about sugar.
Your nervous system, limbic system, and heart may feel stretched to the max, and long for a break!
This is where it's helpful to bring in compassion.
When we face extraordinary circumstances like a pandemic, it's understandable why we turn to sugar to care for ourselves.
As we become separated from our normal routines and connections, we may feel more alone, and more disconnected. Sugar can become a primary form of self care.
Using sugar for comfort during these times is not a personal flaw, but a sign that you need more support.
How Emerge can support you
In Emerge you'll learn how to use self compassion to care for the stress, overwhelm, and challenging emotions that arise in your daily life. These practices can help you soften a habit of using sugar for self care. And they can also help you care for all the emotions that are coming up for you right now with the changes in our world.
This is not a diet (you won't find information on what to eat) nor a bootcamp, nor a course on what or how to eat. Rather, it's a course on nourishing, supporting and growing the internal resilience, strength and levity that helps you change unhealthy patterns of self care.
You'll receive daily emotional support to help you when you feel panicked, overwhelmed, like "f** it!" or frustrated.
You'll learn how to use self compassion to create more nourishing self talk and build resilience, the inner confidence of, “I trust myself to move through this.”
And you'll learn how to rest in the growth process, so that you can feel less alone, less anxious, and less pressured to 'make it happen.' It's a relief to lean into the support that's available to us.
Each day for 30 days you'll receive an audio message to help you care for stress, soften difficult emotions, and deepen self compassion as you change your habits with sugar.
You'll also receive practices and tools to:
- move through cravings
- help you in moments of overwhelm and panic
- and move through resistance (The voice that says, "I don't want to stop eating sugar!")
A shelter in the storm: hands on help for a time of uncertainty
While this course was originally created to help with sugar in 'normal' life circumstances, the teachings and practices in this course are especially helpful in a time of heightened alarm and uncertainty.
Many of the tools in the course can help you both with sugar and in strengthening your web of support as you face financial insecurity, social distancing, disconnection, and worry about loved ones.
For example, you'll learn how to:
- feel comfortable asking for and receiving lots of help
- break patterns of isolation
- care for feelings of panic
- and care for feelings of overwhelm
Connect with your Inner Elder
One of the key things you'll learn in Emerge is how to connect with your strongest self. You can think of your strongest self as your inner parent, Highest Self, or Inner Elder.
Like a mother caring for her children, your strongest self is the ring leader, the Self that cares for your other selves, needs, parts, worries, needs and concerns.
As you learn how to put your Inner Elder in 'charge,' you quiet, soothe, and care for the other parts of you that may be feeling overwhelmed, panicked, angry, or wanting to eat sugar for relief.
Be rooted in your strength
Over time, as you practice connecting with the wisest, steadiest part of you, you rest more and more in this part. It becomes your center.
The difficulties of the pandemic will still be there. Painful emotions like fear, anxiety or worry may still be there.
But the 'you' that you're bringing to the situation feels different, more connected to the values that you care about and your inner strength.
So you can care for your anxiety rather than feeling like you're swallowed by it. And you feel more capable of caring for the difficulties and challenges that we're all facing here in a time of pandemic.
It's my hope, that in her own small way, that this course and the community space we've created for you will be a refuge of support, a space that bolsters your courage and feeds your heart.
May the support you find in Emerge nourish the ways you feel called to serve your loved ones, your community, our natural world, and your own being during this time. For you're needed!
There's room for strength and gentleness
As we face more stress and uncertainty, we need more patience, more compassion, and more gentleness. This is what helps us let go of the unhealthy ways we're coping.
So as we embody our strength, we also embody gentleness. This course is especially designed for highly sensitive people and those who want a gentle approach.
- Each day for 30 days you'll receive an audio lesson to build the mindset that helps you make changes with sugar. You can listen to this audio as you work from home, care for your family, cook a meal, or even lie in bed.
- There's also a special bonus section on help for cravings and sticky feelings. You'll learn tools to soften feelings of resistance, boredom, and hopelessness so you don't eat them.
- After the 30 days, you'll continue to have access to the course materials. Once you buy the course, it's yours to keep.
I understand why sugar can feel so hard
My name is Karly Randolph Pitman, and I'm your course facilitator and guide through Emerge. I help highly sensitive people create a kinder, more compassionate relationship with their struggles and themselves.
For many years, sugar was my primary way of caring for myself. I turned to sugar when I felt overwhelmed by my feelings, experiences, or by life itself. As a highly sensitive, porous being, this happened a lot!
Sugar, while at times feeling like an adversary, has also been a beautiful teacher, reconnecting me with my heart, strength, and wholeness, helping me find the 'deeper story' underneath the shame I felt about having so many struggles with food.
So your story is my story, is our story, is sugar's story, is life's story, and leads to our deeper story. I'm honored to be a part of and a witness to your story.
Growing human(kind)ness, the name of my website, means to soften self criticism and shame, and claim the wholeness that is our birthright.
This work arose from two things - from my own experience with decades of multiple eating disorders, chronic depression and anxiety and from bearing witness to others' stories of heartbreak and rebirth, growth and healing.
I first created this course seven years ago as The 30 Day Lift, and thousands have been touched and moved by it. Now I've folded all of their gorgeous collected wisdom into a new, updated course, Emerge. The course you hold in your hands has been seeded by these beautiful souls, by their courage and compassion, by their surrender and their sovereignty, and by their heart woven labor.
I live in Austin, Texas with my husband Patrick and our family, two dogs, a very frisky cat, lots of dust bunnies, and beautiful oak trees. I love good stories, good music, good food, lifting heavy things, and long walks. Underneath all my work you'll find a love for the human heart.
What past students have said:
As I know many in this course have done, I feverishly searched for answers trying to find understanding, relief and change. And I found bits and pieces here and there, but it lacked the depth and comprehensiveness that I was yearning for.
Today that has changed and therefore I have changed. This course facilitated so many aha and breakthrough moments.
I was finally able to see and tap into the shame train that I was on since a traumatic incidence in my childhood. That incident connected me to shame which grew deeper and wider through the years and over many life experiences. I also saw with clarity that I gripped to shame because, while it was destructive, it also protected and served me, giving me a reliable entity to lean on.
Through this course I came to a place where I could look behind with gratitude and understanding while looking ahead with optimism and excitementand chose to step OFF the shame train and wave goodbye. With this massive shift, I was also able to begin practicing self-worth which I think was previously tied to perfectionism but I loosened that grip.
I am no longer obsessed with finding the right diet, model, lifestyle, etc because I have found the right model ...staying connected to my power, my light, my true self, my worth though compassion and a fierce yet tender love.
I am not eating perfectly nor am I my ideal weight but I am no longer wrapped tightly around trying to force that. I have confidence, courage and compassion in a new way. And I believe that this is the platform for all other change that needs to take place.
THANK YOU for bringing so much wisdom, so much intelligence, care and love to this program. It's truly helped me to break free.
- Jenn Urso, Cleveland, Ohio, USA
"[The course] has worked in me to lower defenses, shame and alarm...I also have approached limits with food in a much healthier way without trying or forcing...it seems like an inner shift has taken place outside of conscious effort on my part!
"The beauty of working with Karly for me has been the experience of being accepted and supported unconditionally in the most nurturing way I have ever experienced.
"[It creates the]...most incredible experience with every course I have taken with her -- 4 in total now!"
- Mary, New York, USA
Your course has helped me tremendously. I was bingeing out of control on sugar and baked goods for 3-4 months before your course due to crazy premenopausal hormones.
I have now been sugar-free for 39 days and I feel wonderful. Your teaching about being sensitive and learning to be kind and compassionate to ourselves was very key for me.
- Diana Morgan, USA
I feel so grateful to have stumbled upon one of Karly's classes. It was a 30 day class on sugar. It so spoke to me in content. Then when I watched her introductory video.....I was hooked. Her voice was so kind and caring and gentle. I needed that kind support in my life as I tried to make change.
I had some amazing shifts in her class. Helpful material. Very good support.
As a mental health professional I can personally endorse Karly as an educated, competent teacher who knows her material well and provides a very safe space for participants to share and explore and grow.
I look forward to taking more classes with Karly.
- Faith Storms, USA
My time with Karly's kind, encouraging, humorous and loving voice was very healing for me. She gave me practical tools, planted phrases for showing myself support, lent tips for building a supportive environment around me, and led me in a very inviting and non-threatening way through a kinder re-framing of my developmental wounds.
I found that [Karly's] combination of maternal warmth, self-kindness, down-to-earth humor, and theoretically-grounded cognitive behavioral approach delivers a rather holistic and intelligent healing experience, whereas [Oprah's] course seems to gloss over attention-starved psychic wounds with repressive positive thinking and irritating generalizations.
Karly's focus on integrative thinking, embracing ambivalence, acknowledging pain, caressing neglected parts of my psyche, and "being the adult in the room" provided an encompassing platform that helped me immensely. I'm really sad that it is over! Honestly, if I could do a 365 [day course] I would!
- Jenn Lindsey