Friends, Nurturing Your Inner Mother was a year long intensive that we ran in 2021. People loved this offering and found it so healing and helpful! We now offer this program as a year long intensive that you can begin at any time, as a home study course. Tuition is $30 USD a month for 12 months (plus tax if you live in Texas.)
Healing the pain of separation
One of the deepest sorrows we experience in life is the pain of separation – especially the separation from our wholeness.
So how do we respond to ourselves when we find that we’re caught in the ‘not beautiful’ of overeating or overdoing? What arises within our inner landscape?
Most of us long for an inner refuge of nourishment, tenderness, and support. We want to be compassionate with ourselves when we’re struggling. We want a heart that softens towards our suffering.
But to our dismay, we may find ourselves responding with some sort of fight or flight response: panic, harshness, self criticism, dismissiveness, or disconnection.
I remember in my own life how shocked I felt when I discovered this critical inner part and how often this harshness arose in my habitual responses to myself. I was stunned to discover this well of criticism inside!
When shame turns to self blame
When we’re stuck in painful coping strategies like overeating it’s easy to blame ourselves, to think it’s ‘all our fault.’
We may feel anxious about needing to ‘hurry up’ and fix our ‘mess.’ Or we may think that the only way we can change is by ‘bucking up’ and being harsh with ourselves.
This often arises as an inner dialogue that tell us, “You should be doing better!”
When we find ourselves caught in blame and self aggression, our original pain is compounded by the pain of self criticism.
Rather than helping, these fight or flight patterns keep our coping strategies going – all these tender ways we’re trying to numb, soothe, or quiet our internal distress.
If you want support to nurture your ‘inner mother’ into a place of warmth and welcome, compassion and courage, we invite you to join the Nurturing the Inner Mother year long intensive.
Over the course of a year, you’ll rest more and more deeply in the waters of mercy and nurture spaces of inner homecoming.
Connecting more deeply to your inner mother can help you soften places of harshness, criticism, alienation, and self blame – all those tender places of separation – and embody the deeper story of connection that lives within your being.
Nurture your healing into greater depth
This intensive is for you if you relished the themes we explore in Growing Humankindness – things like acceptance, self forgiveness, self compassion, wholeness, and befriending emotions – and you’d like support to more deeply embody these ideas in your daily life.
We’ll be creating a nourishing inner mother to build the base of safety that allows overeating, self criticism, and perfectionism to gently fall away.
We’ll be moving more slowly and more deeply in this intensive than in our other courses, taking an entire month to explore each theme, with built in periods of rest and integration. Like all our other offerings, this course is based on an approach of warmth, welcome and listening to your inner experiences.
This intensive may be a good fit for you if you want to practice self compassion, inner exploration, and inner nurturing over a longer, more leisurely stretch so your inner mother feels more embodied, integrated, and accessible.
How the intensive works + the curriculum
In the intensive we’ll be using RAIN meditation, art, symbols, stories, poems, and group connection to nurture your internal refuge of strength, compassion, courage, and holding.
For each theme, you’ll have audio materials that you listen to at home, on your own. Then you’ll have the option to explore and play with these materials in several different ways:
- journaling prompts
- art prompts
- healing meditations
- and practice exercises
Each month you’ll explore a topic of wholeness using art, symbols, poetry and meditation.
January – Befriending Neediness
We all carry places of vulnerability and unmet need within. We all have places of poverty in our being, where we are an empty cup, a place in need of support, help, assistance, or care. We tend to feel ashamed of these places, or feel like we need to ‘hurry’ and ‘grow them up.’ We’ll take another look at neediness and these places of inner poverty to find the deep rest, holding, and support that is available when our neediness is seen as the sacred and holy vessel it is, and when we no longer have to ‘prove’ any sense of worth, competence, or achievement to know our belonging.
February – Blessing the Body
In this module, we’ll turn towards the body to befriend our physical selves. We’ll touch the stories we carry in our skin and bones about our physical being. We’ll bring nurturing, curiosity, and self compassion as we touch those places in our bodies that carry shame and self loathing so that we can see what lies underneath these experiences of separation.
March – Softening the Rigid Arrow
This module is for you if you struggle with perfectionism and the feeling of ‘needing to do it right’ or needing to ‘have it all figured out’ before you begin. We’ll take another look at ‘failure’ to soften how we approach mistakes, to embrace the adaptive process, and to nurture more compassionate responses when we don’t meet our own expectations.
April – Cradling Wholeness
In this module, we’ll exercise our both/and thinking – our integrative muscles – to move out of black and white, either or thinking. Together we’ll stretch our capacity to hold life’s complexity with greater flexibility, trust and curiosity. Rather than approaching ourselves, our challenges, our inner world, and difficult emotions from a stance of, “What’s wrong?” we’ll approach them from a stance of wholeness – “Hmm…what’s here?”
This then leads to collaboration – “What’s needed here?” or “What can help?” – another way we support the birthin within.
May – Celebrating Seeds of New Life
In this module we’ll practice coming alongside ourselves – how we stretch into new life and open to the yearning of our hearts. We’ll care for the dragons of fear and sadness as we also honor the treasures that lie within us – those things we long to bring to life in our inner and outer worlds.
June – Reconnecting with Joy
In this module we’ll embrace the exuberant energy of new life, of joy, gratitude, appreciation and celebration. Many times, overconsuming arises when we’re not practiced at pausing to feel the feeling of ‘enough,’ satiation, or appreciation. Healing our relationship with satiation can help us rest in those times of being ‘filled,’ a way of honoring all the ways we receive, and all the ways we embody joy.
July – The Holding that Allows us to Let Go
We all have capacities that have been strengthened over time, that are well developed. Some of these capacities and tendencies may no longer serve as us they once did. And yet these pursuits are tied to ways we feel ‘good,’ ways we feel safe, or ways we feel connected to others. In this module, we’ll gently nurture the unconditional love that helps us honor how our pursuits have served us and nurture the ways we feel moved to soften their hold.
August – Embracing the Outcast
In this module we’ll invite in the inner places of loss, those places that we’ve covered over, have outcast, or have shunned from the hearth fire. This is where we tend the fires of grief, soften self blame, and befriend the places of ‘unloved other’ within our being.
September – Welcoming the Love that is ‘No’
Limits are often felt in our bodies as something painful or negative – a constraint, hardship, punishment or deprivation. In this module, we’ll take another look at limits to change our relationship with this particular form of love and nurturing. This is the yang of self compassion, where our inner protector arises in fierce love for ourselves, and for all. As we come to know limits from a place of connection, we open to receive this form of nurturing in our lives.
October – Gathering around the Hearth: Receiving Help and Deepening Connection
To know our belonging, we embed ourselves in the soil of community, the cycles of giving and receiving. Yet for many of us, asking for help – and receiving help – is an act of vulnerable courage – and with good reason. In this module, we gently stretch into new waters of trust, softening places of overresponsibility and opening our hands to receive support, help, care and connection from others. This is a celebration of the hearth fire, where all are a part of the village of connection.
November – Inner Hospitality: Welcoming the Holy Child
In this opening module, we welcome all our parts, concerns, wishes, and mixed emotions into the circle of belonging, giving ourselves an unconditional invitation to exist. We’ll practice self compassion and inner nurturing for all the parts that arise to speak, especially in the tender space of beginning a new journey.
This is our cradle of welcome for the Child being birthed through and within us.
December – Beauty and Blessing
In this module we turn to beauty and blessing and how our lives are a source of connection and blessing for ourselves, and for others. Like the Littlest Angel, we each hold a treasure and medicine, the gift we bring to the circle. How do we midwife this gift into form?
About me, your guide
My name is Karly Randolph Pitman, and I understand why this feels hard. Food – especially sugar – was my constant companion, my primary way of caring for myself. I turned to food when I felt overwhelmed by my feelings, experiences, or by life itself. As a sensitive person, this happened a lot!
Food was my protector and friend, where I felt safe and understood. When I felt overwhelmed by depression, anxiety, shame, or my wounds, I retreated into food. This would only exacerbate my shame and self loathing. But in the moment, food was the most nourishing, comforting solution I could imagine – and what would enable me to endure my pain.
Unraveling my bond with food has been my life’s journey – reconnecting me, year by year, with my heart, strength, and wholeness. I’m so grateful for the ways that my journey with food has softened the self harshness I’ve harbored towards myself and help me reconnect with others. We’re truly all in this together!
I created my first course in 2008 and love weaving the insights of neuroscience, attachment theory, and presence into a place of safety and healing where the painful places in your being can unfold.
I live in Austin, Texas with my family where I love to go for long walks, write poetry, play Scrabble, read or watch a good story, and lift heavy things. Underneath all my work you’ll find a love for the human heart.
Singing the song that longs to be born
Image from The Three Ages of Woman by Gustav Klimt
The journey of nurturing the inner mother is one of ally and companion, where we serve as the midwife to our inner being. We listen to the sweet song that longs to be born, and we help carry the tune.
As manger, we cradle what longs to be born, holding all that is new and newborn and tender, singing the ‘soul of her worth,’ and celebrating each tendril, root, and shoot of growth.
When we join and meet and greet our vulnerability we uncover our Deeper story. We bring connection to what has been severed, holding to what has been outcast, and rest to what has had to work too hard.
We come to inhabit and embody the Love that we are – what’s stronger than the separation – and what rises to meet and greet all the messy emotions, cravings, and the tender needs and vulnerability we feel around our ‘brokenness,’ holding our hurt in compassion and wisdom, a fierce embrace.
It is to this Deeper Story that lives in you – and all of us – and to this Mothering Presence that holds the All that we bend our knee and bow our hearts.
Frequently Asked Questions
What if I’m unhappy with the course? What’s your refund policy?
We’re really proud of our offerings and stand behind them, and we also want you to find the right fit for your needs. If you have any questions if this is the right course for you, please reach out! We’re happy to help.
If the course isn’t for you, we offer a full refund within the first 7 days of your purchase. After this time period, we don’t offer refunds or exchanges. To ask for a refund, please contact us by email or phone. And if you have particular extenuating circumstances that are outside the scope of our refund policy, please reach out.
I’ve taken other courses with Karly. How is this course different?
In all our courses, you’ll find common threads like fostering compassion, relating to rather than cutting out various parts of ourselves, and approaching ourselves with reverence. What makes this course different is it’s year long focus.
How do I know if this course is the right fit for me?
If you’re willing to reflect upon your experience, feel into your true needs, and make time for the exercises and webinars, you’ll do well. It’s helpful if you’re open to meditation practices and if you’re comfortable in an online environment. Lastly, this course is especially designed for highly sensitive people and offers gentle ways of supporting growth and change.
How do I know if this course is NOT for me? Can this course heal trauma?
Healing trauma is beautiful and holy work. It can also be complex and often requires time, patience, and the skill of a trauma therapist. While this course offers support and nourishment to deepen your relationship with yourself, and while many people receive healing from it, I want to be clear that we’re not trained therapists. Therapy is wonderful, but this course isn’t a replacement for therapy or designed to heal trauma. For help with trauma, we recommend searching for a therapist with trauma training like EMDR, Internal Family Systems, or Somatic Experiencing in your local community. This kind of support can make all the difference – and we want this for you! Learn more about getting help for trauma here.