As we come into September, I'm moving into "when food is your mother" season. This is the time of year when I explore this idea of how, when we're under stress, we can turn to food as a 'mothering presence' - a place of care, nurturing, and … [Read more]
What it means to have an emotional bond with food
We should stop using the word addiction and shift to a new word – bonding.” – Professor Peter Cohen In my signature course, When Food is Your Mother, I talk about what it means to be bonded with food: to use food to care for our relational and … [Read more]
Softening the “I should know better” voice
One of the beliefs that tends to go hand in hand with compulsive habits is some sense of, “I should've handled this better.” On some level, we blame ourselves for our bad habits, for our painful or dysfunctional coping strategies. We can also … [Read more]
Measure your body in love
The other day I returned a few things to the home of a close friend while she was away at work. When I opened her front door, I found the remnants of breakfast on the dining room table, mail and books on the hall bench, stacks of plates in the … [Read more]
A binge is merely a cry for connection
Cravings and binges are simply cries for connection. Yesterday, as I sat down to write, I noticed that I was feeling off. The words weren’t flowing, and I felt dry. Quickly, an impulse popped into my head – “Go and check Facebook.” I found myself … [Read more]
Healing the shame of craving
When we’re feeling stuck in a compulsive, obsessive, painful relationship with sugar, we tend to long for one of three things: to cut out our cravings, our desire and longings for the food to cut out eating the particular food or food group … [Read more]