20th century psychologist Carl Rogers is most widely known for his ideas about self acceptance – how this particular form of compassion is the cradle of change: “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” I … [Read more]
Softening your fear of food
Ring the bells that still can ring Forget your perfect offering There is a crack in everything That's how the light gets in. - Leonard Cohen, Anthem A few years ago, I joined a gym with my twenty one year old daughter. As a soccer player, my … [Read more]
‘Tending and befriending’ in winter, and in a pandemic
I hope this note finds you well as we journey into February. For many of you - especially our Northern Hemisphere friends and those on the North American East Coast - this time of year brings much cold, and dark. We're wired to 'tend and … [Read more]
The sacred call of the heart’s cry
Here in this time of a world pandemic, and in this time of a call for a deeper justice, so much is in motion, aswirl. In my own life, I feel these swirls of change as my 20 year old daughter makes her plans to leave home, as I grieve the death of … [Read more]
Why it’s important to heal your relationship with limits
Limits are the riverbank to the river: how we steer the flow of our lives. Why limits can feel so scary When we say no to something that we're attached to - like sugar - we can feel anxious, a sense of groundlessness or emptiness without our … [Read more]
Your messiest habit is a place of birth
One of the deepest sorrows we experience in life is the pain of separation - especially the separation from our wholeness. When our lives are ruptured - when we experience pain, loss, trauma, or separation that's too much to bear - when we walk … [Read more]