Create a more compassionate relationship with yourself
Today I took my dogs for a walk, traipsing our normal loop of squirrel hunting and owl spotting, ending in a bout of enthusiastic stick fetching in the nearby pond. It is sunny and hot right now in Texas – over 100 degrees hot – and I took of my … [Read more]
Image: Nurture Love by Eddy Sara. Used by kind permission of the artist. Many of you know that I live in Texas, and so not very far away from the horrible tragedy that took place in Uvalde this week when a gunman attacked an elementary school. I, … [Read more]
This past week we hosted my aunt and cousin at our home, who came to visit from Ohio. We hadn't since them since the end of 2019, and for five days we laughed, talked, and ate meals together. It felt like a holiday, and our hearts filled and … [Read more]
There's a beautiful poem by Penny Harter, When I Taught Her How to Tie Her Shoes, that begins like this: A revelation, the student in high school who didn't know how to tie her shoes. I took her into the book-room, knowing what I … [Read more]
I have a dear friend who spent the last year going in and out of the hospital, caring for complications from a major illness. His body was in such a stressed state that going to sleep was near impossible. So he'd watch movies and TV shows until … [Read more]
20th century psychologist Carl Rogers is most widely known for his ideas about self acceptance – how this particular form of compassion is the cradle of change: “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” I … [Read more]
When we struggle with addictive patterns like overeating or sugar bingeing, we may feel like we need to come to a place of complete abstinence in order to find relief and healing. And yet people have told me, over and over, how hard it is for them … [Read more]
The end of the day, weekends, evenings, and before bed: these are all times when people tell me that their relationship with food – or other self soothing behaviors – is the hardest to bear. These times have a few things in common: … [Read more]
Here at the tail end of a two year pandemic, in a time of so much polarization, and now, the tragic horror of another war, I imagine that many of you are feeling the collective anxiety and fear that's been running through our shared, human nervous … [Read more]
When the approach to our life is conceptual, then the emphasis is on behavior, on doing. Whereas when the approach is through…the heart, caring is a shift in the way you come to something; it is an opening…There are behaviors that will … [Read more]
Image: Befriend Sadness by Eddy Sara. Used by kind permission of the artist. You can find Eddy's art here. We all have moments in our lives where we feel bereft and alone – where those around us convey in word or action a lack of understanding. I … [Read more]
Last night I took the dogs on a walk under the nearly full moon, relishing the dark coolness of the winter solstice. And now, as I write to you, I'm lit by the amber of candlelight. Six beautiful pillars glow beside me. Darkness and light: they … [Read more]
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