Create a more compassionate relationship with yourself
I have a dear friend who spent the last year going in and out of the hospital, caring for complications from a major illness. His body was in such a stressed state that going to sleep was near impossible. So he'd watch movies and TV shows until … [Read more]
20th century psychologist Carl Rogers is most widely known for his ideas about self acceptance – how this particular form of compassion is the cradle of change: “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” I … [Read more]
When we struggle with addictive patterns like overeating or sugar bingeing, we may feel like we need to come to a place of complete abstinence in order to find relief and healing. And yet people have told me, over and over, how hard it is for them … [Read more]
The end of the day, weekends, evenings, and before bed: these are all times when people tell me that their relationship with food – or other self soothing behaviors – is the hardest to bear. These times have a few things in common: … [Read more]
Here at the tail end of a two year pandemic, in a time of so much polarization, and now, the tragic horror of another war, I imagine that many of you are feeling the collective anxiety and fear that's been running through our shared, human nervous … [Read more]
When the approach to our life is conceptual, then the emphasis is on behavior, on doing. Whereas when the approach is through…the heart, caring is a shift in the way you come to something; it is an opening…There are behaviors that will … [Read more]
Image: Befriend Sadness by Eddy Sara. Used by kind permission of the artist. You can find Eddy's art here. We all have moments in our lives where we feel bereft and alone – where those around us convey in word or action a lack of understanding. I … [Read more]
Last night I took the dogs on a walk under the nearly full moon, relishing the dark coolness of the winter solstice. And now, as I write to you, I'm lit by the amber of candlelight. Six beautiful pillars glow beside me. Darkness and light: they … [Read more]
In my last post, I talked about a common place in the healing journey, the place of, 'yes, but not yet' – when we can see our patterns but not necessarily change them. Today I want to talk about the key emotions that can arise in this space … [Read more]
This morning I was sitting on the couch in my living room, a large bowl before me, as I peeled Macintosh apples for our family's holiday crisp. I was up early to get the crisp in the oven before our Thanksgiving turkey, and so the house was quiet. … [Read more]
Here on this good Tuesday I wanted to send out a note about the Kick Sugar Summit, a free online event that has been going on this week, from October 12 through October 19. Starting today, October 19, at 7 am PT/10 am ET, you can listen to all … [Read more]
When you've struggled with a coping strategy, like overeating, for a long time, and you've done a lot of inner work to try and help yourself, it's easy to feel overwhelmed by frustration, self attack, or despair, like 'nothing's changing.' But what … [Read more]
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