The other day I returned a few things to the home of a close friend while she was away at work. When I opened her front door, I found the remnants of breakfast on the dining room table, mail and books on the hall bench, stacks of plates in the … [Read more]
Moving from self criticism to “This is difficult”
When we're facing challenges and difficulty, it's easy for the inherent frustration of the situation to turn inwards, towards ourselves. This can arise as self criticism, self attack, and self judgment. In the wake of this frustration, you may … [Read more]
Healing the myth of “I should’ve known better”
Here it is the heat of the afternoon, a time of being cooked and stewed by the sun in August, the hottest month of the year where I live. The heat has me thinking of a quote by Viktor Frankl – "What is to give light must endure burning” – and all … [Read more]
I will not make war against my own heart
A few years ago, I was asked to write a short essay about 'what I know for sure,' what I'd want to share if I only had one thing to say. This was my response. On a daily basis, I pause, put my hand on my heart and whisper to myself, "I will not … [Read more]
Softening shame with your ‘inner protector’
The inner protector, like a mother bear, makes room for our pain and makes room for our human experience. In my last post, I spoke about a powerful but subtle shift when facing difficult experiences, cravings or pain: to stop ”trying harder” and … [Read more]
Changing how you see
A few days ago, I hosted a webinar, an introduction to my When Food is Your Mother class. In the webinar, we explored what’s really underneath overeating, bingeing, and sugar addiction on a deeper emotional level. I wanted to share these … [Read more]