Yesterday during a webinar we were talking about how challenging it can be to trust our goodness or potential when we're overeating. Food 'stuff' can bring up so much shame and self attack: we can feel so broken or discouraged for not being able … [Read more]
The need for ‘control’ and what drives us to seek relief in food
A friend of mine told me a story about his grandmother, a tough as nails farmer who held onto the farm for years after her loved ones had passed. As a teenager, he'd visit her house for the summer, and he remembered the piles of food she cooked for … [Read more]
Tracing the link between your nervous system and food
Over the past 30 years, our understanding of trauma has broadened and deepened, especially as we developed the technology to gain a window into the brain. One of these understandings is polyvagal theory - a theory that makes sense of our autonomic … [Read more]
Facing what doesn’t work: how to let go of food
In last week's newsletter I talked about why food - particularly sugar - can be such a powerful draw at the end of the day. This is often a time when we long to let down and receive rest and comfort after a day of being 'on.' And this is often … [Read more]
Why sugar and food are powerful end of the day treats
Our desire to let down, to receive and to be cared for - rather than caring for others - is often what's underneath end of the day and nighttime overeating. Yesterday we had a Q&A webinar for a group class where the topic of 'I deserve a … [Read more]
“The tears that fill the holes where food usually goes”
Yesterday I met a delightful woman, and we sat in the quiet, sharing our food stories with each other. At some point, our conversation turned to grief. We began talking about the first layer of grief - the grief of letting go of overeating, of the … [Read more]
Moving from a ‘trigger’ to an opportunity – ‘how the light gets in’
When we're bombarded by waves of reactivity - such as cravings, impulses, a compulsion to overeat check out, overwork, overdo, or escape, or emotional triggers or upsets - everything in us can tighten up and say, "No." Our natural reaction is to … [Read more]
What does power have to do with your patterns with food?
In last week's newsletter, I wrote about how we can become polarized against ourselves - and how this protective stance can make it difficult for us to feel free to move forward and make positive changes in our lives. These inner polarizations can … [Read more]
How our inner polarizations keep us from moving forward
In a previous article, I talked about how we can feel worried that we're betraying our values if we ask ourselves to make changes or lose weight. This can be especially sticky if we value things like gentleness, compassion, tolerance, and … [Read more]
Helping the brain feel safe
As we begin the new year, we have plans and wishes, yearnings and hopes for growth, healing, relief, rest or change. It helps to remember that our brains have an impulse towards healing and growth. As soon as there's sufficient support or safety, … [Read more]
When something in you protests change
Something that shows up for nearly everyone who longs for healing with food is resistance. This might arise for you, too. While a part of you longs for change, growth, healing or relief from painful eating patterns, another place may resist these … [Read more]
Tracking the two different types of cravings
One of the topics that came up in the Soften a Sugar Habit with Presence, Compassion and Grief class this week is the nervous system, and the impact a dysregulated nervous system can have on our patterns with food. When our nervous systems feel … [Read more]
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