I receive a lot of very tender, precious emails from women that all say some version of the same thing - Help! Now that I'm being kinder to myself I'm feeling really *really* unmotivated to: go to the gym to lose the extra weight to set … [Read more]
How kindness softens emotional eating
Can you befriend difficult emotions? The poet Rumi writes, This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes As an unexpected visitor. Welcome and entertain them … [Read more]
How softening self judgment soothes overeating
I recently shared my theory that refuge - a deep rooted feeling of belonging, safety and attachment - is what creates the foundation for growth, maturity, and change with food. I heard from so many tender men and women who resonated with that theory … [Read more]
Stop sugar cravings with kindness
Can you soften sugar cravings with kindness? When we crave sugar, we tend to have 1 of 2 reactions: we either try to control, white knuckle, suppress, shut up, or cut out the feeling of wanting. Or we act out the craving by eating the … [Read more]
Stop a binge in its tracks with empathy
We tend to judge and blame ourselves when we do something "wrong" or "messy" like bingeing. But I see it differently - if you're bingeing, overeating or fixating on sugar, there's a valid, honest to good reason. Binges don't occur in a vaccuum. … [Read more]
Finding compassion for your hunger
Do you judge yourself for being hungry? On my daughter's 10th birthday, I picked her up from school to take her out to lunch at the Chinese buffet. As we nibbled on moo goo gai pan, I looked up from my food and observed all the other people in the … [Read more]