There's a line in an essay by Thomas Merton, where he writes of "the brutality of our will." This line reminds me of a fellow line, a lyric from a Wailin' Jennys' song: will we bite against the silence Fill our days with noise and violence Not … [Read more]
5 ways to say no to sugar with compassion
For most of my life, I’ve been a compulsive sugar addict. Starting in my early 20s, I spent over 15 years trying to heal my sugar addiction. It’s been a long, winding journey. What finally helped me heal my relationship with sugar was … [Read more]
How compassion helps you move from “knowing” to “doing”
The "how" of changeKarly was asked on one of her recent Heal Overeating: Untangled support calls how to get from, "I should do x,y,z, because that would be smart, and benefit me," to actually doing x,y,z ... to making changes. This is a tremendously … [Read more]
Befriending hunger with compassion
When you're trying to heal painful behaviors with food, your hunger - your ground floor, human need for food - can bring up a lot of mixed feelings. Your hunger may bring up anxiety, fear, apprehension, doubt, hope, joy, desire, longing or confusion … [Read more]
The alchemy of self acceptance – how acceptance makes change possible
I often talk about how you can change your relationship with sugar through loving relationship itself: kindness, compassion, connection, and acceptance. Many people email or ask me, "But how? How does being accepting or kind to myself help me change … [Read more]
The healing power of loving your overeating self
What if your "overeating self" had wisdom to share? In this month and week of love, I've been thinking about unconditional love, and what it would mean to love every part of ourselves - including those parts that we most dislike. Yes, this includes … [Read more]