After you’ve binged on sugar or food, you may feel physically uncomfortable: bloated, overly full, gassy, or irritable. You may have a headache, feel a sugar buzz, feel wired, or sleepy. You may have strong sugar or salt cravings. Beyond how your body feels, you may be filled with uncomfortable emotions as well. These can include shame, frustration, hopelessness, regret, or anger.
In the following post, I’ll share you how to care for your physical body, as well as your heart and mind after a binge. I’ll also share some thoughts on how you can prevent a binge next time. You’ll also find resources if you’re wanting help and support to soften patterns of binge eating.
Ways to support your physical body after a binge:
1. Eat regular meals. I know it sounds counterintuitive, but fasting or skipping meals after a binge will only destabilize your blood sugar, which can easily lead to another binge and feelings of hopelessness.
When you’re hungry again, eat. If you binged at night, start fresh by giving yourself a healthy breakfast. Stick to clean, whole foods and drink lots of water. Broth based soups and vegetable based meals often feel good after a binge.
Starving yourself after a binge can be a subtle form of punishment – “I was so bad yesterday I don’t deserve to eat today.” By contrast, feeding yourself when you’re hungry again is a tangible way of saying, “I forgive myself. I don’t have to suffer because I made a mistake.”
2. Give your body gentle support. To help your body detox from lots of food, fat, salt or sugar, you may try having a cup of mint tea to soothe your digestion. (Celestial Seasonings’ Grandma’s Tummy Mint tea is especially nice.) Eating probiotic rich foods – kombucha, fermented vegetables, yogurt, kefir – can also help settle and support your digestion.
A shower or hot bath with Epsom salts may help you feel better both mentally and physically.
3. Offer yourself regular, rhythmic self care.
If you binged on lots of sugary or fatty foods, you may have intense food cravings for a few days. Your body may feel out of sorts as your body processes the excess sugar and fat.
What helps you move through this period of discomfort is structure, routine, and rhythmic support, what I call grounding. Grounding helps you feel nourished, capable, and strong. The power lies in its rhythmic nature: the routine itself can take over when you feel tired, overwhelmed, or inside out. You can ground yourself with regular meals, a daily routine, sleep, and gentle exercise.
Ways to support your heart and mind after a binge:
4. Offer yourself compassion and self forgiveness. Beating yourself up doesn’t facilitate change. Here’s why: when you’re caught in self blame and shame, your brain moves to defend you, to protect you from too much wounding. The consequence is that you’re not free to adapt and grow: you’re not able to learn from your mistakes. Compassion, on the other hand, moves your brain into a space of safety, freeing you to learn and grow.
You can try comforting yourself just as you would a small child or talking to yourself in reassuring tones, “It’s okay, honey. You’re going to be okay.” Try picturing someone who loves you unconditionally and talk to yourself as this person would.
5. Move the emotions through your body. A binge brings up strong emotions. A walk is a great way to move the painful regret, sadness, frustration and even loathing (which is actually frustration that has simply found a target) after a binge. A good cry can also move the strong emotion of frustration. Other ways to move the emotions: writing, exercise, gentle yoga, stretching, deep breathing, rocking in a rocking chair or swing, meditation and dancing.
6. Remind yourself of your wholeness. When you offer yourself mercy, you’re offering yourself unconditional love: I’m here and I care. This is important, because it reminds you of your wholeness. You are so much bigger than your thoughts, emotions and behavior – even bingeing.
One way to convey unconditional love is to put up photos of yourself as a young child in your home. Looking at these pictures can remind you that you still carry that child with you. You’re not a horrible person because you messed up; merely human.
7. Get support. You may find yourself hiding after a binge, feeling caught in shame. There’s tremendous vulnerability in sharing ourselves so intimately with another. But in reaching out, there’s also a big pay off: connection instead of isolation.
When you’ve binged, I gently invite you to reach out for support and to talk with a trusted friend (the key word here is trusted), someone who can remind you of your wholeness and the bigger picture. When we move through our fear and reach out for support, sharing our pain with a trusted loved one, we often find acceptance, connection and belonging. This brings relief.
One of the best ways I know to get emotional support is a listening partner, an idea that comes from Hand in Hand parenting. You can learn more about listening partners here and how to find a listening partner here.
You can also offer yourself empathy. The Binge Rescue worksheet is a free resource that walks you step by step through this process.
Ways to grow out of a pattern of binge eating:
8. Seek understanding. One of the most powerful ways you can foster self forgiveness is to reframe why you binge. Many people see bingeing as a problem of poor will power, lack of self discipline, or a character flaw. When they binge, they then see themselves as someone with poor will power, selfishness, or low character. Oh, ouch! No wonder that point of view causes so much shame and feels so painful.
I offer a different perspective: You’re not bingeing on purpose. You’re bingeing to meet a need. Binge eating is an emotional coping strategy driven by deep, unmet needs. On this emotional level, your bingeing makes absolute sense, as messy or illogical as the overeating may appear on the surface.
This new way of thinking frees us from the pain of self blame.
9. Foster “and” thinking. When you’ve made a mistake, like a binge, it’s easy to get caught in intense emotions of hopelessness or frustration. These feelings can feel so big and true that you lose hope. You may feel like it will never be different or that you’ll never be able to change.
What shifts these feelings is integrative functioning – to see the other side. Integrative thinking is “and” vs. either/or thinking. It’s holding onto both the discomfort – I feel frustrated, I feel discouraged, I feel like I’ll never stop bingeing – and the hope – I know I can do better tomorrow. I know this will pass. This isn’t the end of my story.
How do you remember the hope? Honestly, when we’re caught in intense emotions, we often can’t. The emotions are too intense to mix. This is where loved ones, support partners, therapists, and sponsors can help. They can help you hold onto your integrative functioning when you can’t do this on your own. They can bring the hope when you can’t.
10. Fully feel the grief. I used to believe – and teach – that when we know better, we do better. But I learned a different perspective from developmental psychologist Dr. Gordon Neufeld that changed the foundation of my approach to healing binge eating. You do better – you make different choices – as a by product of emotional development, not knowledge.
Emotional development is the key to maturation, to outgrowing patterns of binge eating. It’s fostered by fully feeling the futility of your actions. This means that you have to fully feel that what you’re doing (the binge eating) isn’t working – it doesn’t bring you the relief you seek, it doesn’t truly meet your needs, and it causes pain and suffering in your life.
When you fully feel the futility of “This doesn’t work,” you’re able to move forward and change. It’s how you do something different. I appreciate how vulnerable this is, because futility is a place of loss, letting go, and surrender. Paradoxically, it’s also the doorway to healing and growth. As spring follows winter, grief leads to new life. As you fully feel that the binge eating doesn’t work, you’re able to change your habits with food.
For more support with sugar, try watching this free video series on healing a sugar addiction, or these support pages on healing your relationship with sugar, understanding and softening cravings, and healing the drive behind overeating.
You can find all my free resources here.
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rough day…need support. feel out of control. fear of getting fat..being rejected by everyone-and ending up alone.
MiMi–I realize it is now years after your post. How are you doing? I hope this email finds you well!! I too, struggle with the same thoughts as you just posted. I thought I would reach out to see how you are doing, years later. Thinking of you!
Kelly
Hey I’m struggling too. I don’t know of anyone else in my life who’s dealing with this–at least, I’m too embarrassed to speak up so I don’t know if anyone else is.
I could really use a buddy who is also going through this. Maybe we can hold each other accountable?
Let me know
~ Ju
Hey Im in the same situation and i would like to give that hold each other accountable thing a try!!
Hi Joao,
What a great idea! I do hope you are able to connect and support each other. For other support with sugar, you may be interested in Donna Smith’s group here on Facebook, where you can connect with others who are trying to eat less sugar: https://www.facebook.com/groups/322848757794648/
Hi Julia,
I’m glad you’re reaching out for help and support! If you’re wrestling with sugar, you may also be able to find support partners or buddies through a Facebook group. I know Donna Smith runs a good one for folks wanting help with sugar – https://www.facebook.com/groups/322848757794648/
Mimi,
I isolate myself when I'm overeating too. I know that pain all too well.
When you say you feel out of control and fear being rejected, know that there are women like you encouraging one another in our Support Forum. It's a great place to come to get support and end the isolation. I learn so much from the wise women there.
Best,
Karly
im bingeing at the moment….its hell. i will get abstinent again
Love this article. The best thing I've seen on the web with regards to overeating. Your lovely, compassionate tone heals even through the reading of it.
Thank you.
You are so welcome, Hannah. I'm glad you found us here! XO, Karly
Saskia,
Yes, bingeing is hell – because of all the shame and self loathing and guilt that comes along with it. I hope you are in a better space now. And I'd love to reassure you that this, too, shall pass. XO, Karly
Hi I hate myself I am a fat unmarried 47 year old and I have just binged on a whole saucespan of spaggetti bolognaise I hate myself
Hi Mary,
Binges can make you feel terrible – I know. I hope that you were able to find some comfort. XO, Karly
I just binged 4000 calories and feel like hell. I tried for the second time in my life to “purge” but my stomach is so stubborn I only ended up dry gagging and making my throat hoarse…just like the first time. It’s getting worse and I don’t know what to do. Before I’d freak out at 500 or 600 calorie binges and now I can’t believe I ever thought that was bad! I binge a lot but am just slightly overweight since I exercised tons to make up for it (we’re talking 2-5 hours depending on binge severity). I promised myself to stop since I know it’s bad and I ached so bad at times I binged more than 3 days in a row but the binging hasn’t stopped so I’ve gained 8 lbs in the last 2 months! I don’t even know what I’m doing posting here…I’m just totally at a loss for what to do. I was googling for what to do after binging haha.
I think I can accept that my ideal weight isn’t Hollywood’s (that’s about 18 lbs below what I am now) but now I’m afraid I’ll never reach that either since dieting only makes binging worse, but I’m so depressed over how I look right now I can’t even go out. D–ned if I do and d–ned if I don’t.
Your blog post did help though. I just have to wait until I don’t feel so gross and bloated that I can fall asleep.
Thanks for the encouaging words. Got up last night at 3:30 am and made oatmeal cookies. Ate 8 of them last night, falling asleep between bites, then waking back up and eating some more. When I got up this am (11:00) I felt horrible. Dizzy, tired. So what did I do? Ate 6 more cookies. Now it”s 1:15 and half the day is gone and I feel like all I want to do is sleep. This was an almost every night occurrence for me when I took Ambien, but since switching to Lunesta 2 months ago this is the first time it’s happened. I’ve lost 15 pounds since I started sleeping all night and now I just pray that this isn’t starting all over again. For the first time in 2 years I feel focused and happy and I just can’t go back to the way I used to feel! Thought about going to buy some chromium (spelling?) to see if it would help me get past this feeling. I know if I take a nap, when I wake up the cravings are going to be worse then ever. It does feel better to tell someone though. I’m absolutly disgusted with myself right now. Sugar = tired, cranky, depressed and headaches. So why do we eat it ???????
i am recovering from a binge eating disorder. i thought it was gone. now it's that time of the month and i just binged on 4000 cals. yesterday was great. today is horrible. i was feeling so good about myself… perhaps what makes it worse it that i am leaving for a vacation in the bahamas tomorrow. how do i regain my confidence?
My binging happens about once a week, but no matter how much I read or research on the subject I don't stop. Every other day of the week I'm in fear of eating more than 300 calories and the one day out of that week I binge on things like a lot of cereal and peanut butter (which is what really kills me) until I feel full and extremely sick. I don't know how to become healthy, not only with the binging but also with the borderline anorexia I delve into daily because of fear of gaining weight again. Help?
I don’t think I can help you, but I’m dealing with the EXACT same problem. I literally just ate like six bowls of peanut butter cereal, the kashi kind. And I’m really good at eating well for like 5 days and then I just do it again and I don’t know why. So I feel you. I hate it.
This post was absolutely amazing!
It came at a time when I was feeling ashamed and overwhelmed. Its practical and soothing steps helped me to pull myself out of the pit in which I was wallowing.
Often times, I am at a complete loss after a binge. I can not tell which step leads to the right direction. These simple steps were exactly what I needed.
Thanks!
i felt the same way how are you doing now?
i do the exact same thing deprevation!! binge on sugar! hoe r you doing now??
I just ate a huge bowl of pasta. I feel full, bloated and fat. I'm about 40 lbs over what I'd like to weigh. As miserable as I am , I want Christmas fudge I was given. I tried getting all sugar out of the house, but i would just go buy candy or cake when I wanted to. Now I have a whole new inventory of holiday goodies. I waste so much time with bingeing and I'm so tired of letting food control me. None of my clothes fit, I get out of breath walking up my driveway. I'm fed up with myself, but I keep eating.
I feel embarrassed about how much I think about sugar and food. It’s so sad and I feel ridiculous, and whenever I start binging on food I know that my body is going to hurt the next day and that I shouldn’t, and I try talking to myself, but the thing is that I enjoy eating too much and it’s so comforting, and I WANT to eat, so it feels like I cannot do anything to stop it. And then when I’m on a roll and eating I feel scared because it’s like I let this demon out of its cage and I’m like frantically looking for more food to binge on. My mom is always like…wow, you’re really hungry today huh? But it’s like NO I’m not hungry I…just can’t stop. Whenever I feel anxious or depressed (which is often), I try to fill this void inside by eating. And it just sucks. It’s a Tuesday right now and I’m thinking about food when I should be studying. Ha. I know that I can be strong at times, but I guess now is just not one of them. 🙁
Have just woken up after yet another sugar binge which has been a reaction to a wine binge, Feel awful, Tired, sick, bloated , fed -up Just cant stop doing this all the time. Feel so unloved and lonely. please help me help myself!
Hi Sweetie,
I want you to know you are not alone:) There is nothing wrong with you and you are on a journey. It's a long and hard journey but it's so important not to give up. I find so much comfort knowing I'm not a freak and that there are people out there that struggle with this suger "demon" just like me. I'm still struggling. Somedays I feel like I'm drowning but knowing that Karly has such beautiful words and intentions seems to make it better.
Elle G:)
Dearest Elle,
Something I've had to learn over and over again, and that greatly helps me: Never, ever, ever give up on yourself.
Sometimes we binge because we feel hopelessness and despair. This sense of, "I'll never be able to change/fix this/make this better." So if this is the case, I might as well comfort myself with food ….
I find sitting with hopelessness a powerful practice. To feel the sadness and frustration….and then to ask ourselves, "Is this true? Is it true that I'm hopeless?"
And then, rather than trying to fix everything, I work on doing one thing differently. Just one thing. Doing one thing differently, dear Elle, can enact a powerful change of events – most especially because it brings back your HOPE.
So proud of you!
I found this website to be so comforting, I have been a binge and anorexia eater email for over 45 years. Most of all my teen and adult life. I thought I had overcome it until recently. I had too many losses in just a short period of time, started isolating myself, getting depressed, all of it. Then out of the blue, the old binging problem started again, I also trying to hard to not purge, that I really don’t want to do. It was a everyday thing for me all of those years, and I am trying so hard to not fall back. I am reading all of these posts, and it is comforting me alot. I’m going to reach out in the support group, start sharing and talking with others. Thank you so much for making this available for us who hate this binging and purging, we hate feeling the quilt and shame, we hate feeling like we’re not loved because we have extra weight, even if it’s 5 pounds, 10 pds, whatever the case my be. We don’t want to have the feelings that come with bino eating.
Thank you
gosh i just binged on 300g of nuts, i feel awful and bloated and guilty. i idint touch any sugar though coz i'm ona a low carb diet. but i feel so bad now. what am i supposed to do? its all fats!!!
Hi Angell,
I just posted a new article on how to soothe anxiety without eating:
http://www.firstourselves.org/2011/wavy-boundarie…
I hope you find it helpful!
XO, Karly
it happens everytime i lose… i just EAT SHIT and then feel so bad after its terrible
then i have to start again trying to get fit and skinny and its just the worst
i just did it tonight :'( i hate myself so much… its not just because of bingeing its everything as well.. I HATE MYSELF. I HATE ME. I WISH I WASN'T ME.. I WISH I COULD JUST BE NORMAL AND BE GOOD FOR ONCE… it will never happen beause i am shit i am no good i am crap
Just thought I’d share a few recent posts I’ve written on this topic:
20 Reasons Not to Binge Right Now – http://recoverybits.wordpress.com/2011/08/30/20-reasons-why-i-am-not-going-to-binge-right-now/
30 Things to Keep a Binge at Bay – http://recoverybits.wordpress.com/2011/11/10/20-things-to-do-before-you-binge/
20 Reasons Not to Hate Yourself After a Binge – http://recoverybits.wordpress.com/2011/09/09/20-reasons-not-to-hate-yourself-after-a-binge/
Recovery Is Not a Destination – http://recoverybits.wordpress.com/2011/09/12/recovery-is-not-a-destination/
Hope you find them helpful and please let me know if you stop by – I’d love to hear from you!
I hate myself. I binged last night because I was alone and my parent went to sleep earlier. I consumed my entire days worth in 2 hours, froms 2AM TO 4AM (having already consumed what i should consume during the day) I felt so bad and so fat. I hate this world and everyone. I ate in the dark and constantly think about food until my stomach couldn't fit any more. What is wrong with me!!!
Thank you for sharing your story with us, Joy! I see your passion for writing and helping others.
We publish guest authors if you'd be interested in sharing more on First Ourselves. You can learn more here:
http://www.firstourselves.org/about/blog-post-pol…
Warmly, Karly
You are not a terrible person for binge eating. It used to happen to me all the time, but I finally had enough of it and changed all of my eating habits for good. You just need to keep a positive attitude, and things will change for you I am sure of it.
I just ate a slice of pizza and a cupcake because I had such a terrible day and hadn't eaten more than 400 calories. I wish I hadn't done it but it was in a slur. Does anyone have a tip for how you can resist it if it's presented in front of you? This is a good article, but I find myself in that position a lot.
If its presented in front of you walk away, don't eat it. Don't have it in your house. I notice when I don't buy the bad stuff I don't eat it. If its easily accessible you will eat it.
NO NO NO TO #1!!! “fasting after a binge will only make you severely hungry, which can easily lead to another binge, decimating your self-esteem. When youre hungry again, eat.”
THIS IS NOT good advice to give someone on a binge. After binging, your blood sugar shoots up and you get “hungrier” (it’s temporary cravings, not REAL, “hi this is your body speaking & actually need nourishment right now” hunger. Usually if someone has just binged a day or a few days in a row, they won’t WANT to eat anything healthy (which shows they’re not truly hungry). All they would want is fattening things that they’ve been binging on. Thats because the cravings are still strong, so they “think” they’re hungry, even though they couldn’t logically be actually hungry after eating three days worth of food the day before. CRAVINGS =/= HUNGER. Cravings are simply mental longings for food.
THE BEST way to fix all the symptoms after a binge (weight gain, super strong cravings, bloatedness, unhappiness) is to fast. Lots of people say “OH NO it’ll make me want to eat more!” but for most people, that’s a lie that they convince themselves, a self-fulfilling prophecy. fasting for a short time is not “starving yourself”, nor is it deprivation. It’s allowing yourself , your body, your entire digestive system to relax and recover after a sudden extreme overflow of fattening, damaging foods. After a short 24 hour fast, not only do I feel rejuvinated and un-bloated, but I also feel confident in my ability to continue my healthy eating as normal, because my body is now cleansed of most of the junk i filled myself with prior. fasting takes a lot of self control and determination, which is what many people who binge don’t have. But if you do push yourself to accomplish it, you’ll reep the benefits.
I know that some days I’ve gone on a two day binge, but by finally gathering myself together and fasting for one or two days after that, I’m able to get back to my healthy diet and continue losing/maintaining my weight as normal, almost immediately recovering from the damaging binge. Whereas if I would’ve allowed myself to “just keep eating”, I would’ve probably gained even MORE weight, before I was finally able to stop myself from binging and start eating normally again. Fasting makes the process so much quicker and the effects MUCH LESS detrimental than they otherwise would be.
It’s only if YOU see it as “starving” or “depriving” yourself, that you’ll want to go back to binging and overeating again. But these are lies you’ve programmed in your own head. The actual deprivation is allowing yourself to binge, depriving yourself of happiness and a healthy body. If you actually realize and believe in the healing effects of a fast, and look at it in a POSITIVE WAY, you will feel so much better after a short fast, and come back on your diet stronger than before.
Trust me.
This is true, but at the same time, you have to have a “game plan” in store for yourself after the fast is over. It’s something that I do frequently. I find that planning my meals, portioning them out the day before the meal (or even portioning over the weekend if you do have a job) and setting the times of day I know I want to have a meal help me greatly. Limiting tv time can help. Writing notes to myself helps, too…reminders of how I want to feel tomorrow when I wake up and to do a lot of self care in place of food. Showers, bubble baths, getting hair cuts or pedicures, just having something to keep busy in place of food. Set a bed time and stick with it.
And if you need help with any of it, there probably are binge eating support groups in your state. I go to one in my state of Massachusetts and have a “binge buddy” I can talk to on the phone if I’ve had a stressful day, kinda like a AA meeting.
Hi Kalie,
My guess after reading your comment is that you were hungry, as you hadn't eaten much all day, and so you ate the pizza and cupcake because you were overhungry.
I find that eating regular meals helps stabilize your blood sugar so you aren't starving. When we're starving, our biology takes over and we'll eat anything in front of us.
In love and care, Karly
Dear Karly,
I have been suffering from BED for a few years now, spiralling in and out of control. I have been able to control my urges at some points but most of the times, I can not. I think about food constantly, especially when I am feeling stressed out. Sometimes, I can’t even hold a conversation with someone about a topic I do actually really care about because I am too busy thinking about where my next meal is coming from, what might be the “healthiest” option at the next restaurant I will visit, or counting and recounting the calories that I took in the day before. When I am recovering from a binge, lately all I want to do is heal myself by laying in bed or trying to use the bathroom.
I am currently on a long-term travel stint so it doesn’t make my eating habits any easier to fix, but I have finally been able to station myself somewhere for a while. I have also had some severe constipation issues since traveling. With all the best intentions, I went out and bought some fresh fruit, yogurt, vegetables, oatmeal, a loaf of whole grain bread, and some high-fiber cookies. I promised myself that I will eat these things in moderation and save them for breakfasts and in-between-meal snacks. However, I soon realized that I can not keep ANYTHING in my own environment that can be consumed right away without cooking. If I tell myself that I can have just ONE high fiber cookie, it turns into two. Then, that turns into me getting all sorts of different ideas about how I can make the cookie taste better. I take out a yogurt, and dip the cookie into the yogurt. Once the yogurt is finished, I tell myself that I should have something savory to balance out the sweetness. So I butter some bread and bite into a tomato. It’s like once i START eating something, I can’t stop. Then, I justify eating other things simply because they are there. Like, I can’t let anything go to waste. Also, I tend to overeat on things that I THINK will help my digestive system. Like the oatmeal, fruits, veggies, etc. But especially whole grain bread! I ate the whole loaf in just two days.
Not only is this inconvenient for moments where I want a quick health snack, but I also fear never being able to have food in my own house without it being gobbled up in a matter of days. How do you resist the urge to STOP eating once you start, especially when there is so much good food around and you are in the privacy of your own company?
I know your comment was posted almost two months ago, and I hope you are still checking this site. I completely relate to you. I have all of the same symptoms, expecially switching back and forth between sweet and savory while I am bingeing. I cannot stop. I have been dealing with this for almost two years. I, too, have eaten an entire loaf of bread in one day on many, many occassions (in addition to many other foods). I used to count calories, and have many times eaten 4,000 – 5,000 calories in one day. It is sick, and I am so ashamed. I have seen a therapist at an eating disorder clinic, and it did not help at all. I am so frustrated…
Thank you. I needed this today.
hi , I would like to say comming upon this page has been the answer to my own mistakes that reading this was all I could think about when going through these in my head non stop ..I have tried many years to make better changes but now I have gone out of control ..it took me to get through emotionally and physically that the opposite would be the right way ..that is the way I feel I need to approve and build my strength ..I have known what my feelings been pushing me to . and to the feeling I have not fully take in is now what I have to focus on ..I was damaged by my own self thought and false thought but to know how I feel is what I hanf in too , to feel like I can heal in myself will be my actions to others who can see what Im all about .now its time to go back and learn to take the right steps ..time is what it takes ..and now I thank u that this is what I need to do right now ..I have shed few tears for knowing im real ..but right now ..I need to start n this page will help me along the way ..okay well that feels so much better mentally n physically ..and now its time to clense out my body ..i will keep an update and it will be my time for me to feel im losing control but for now I can only foucus now ..thank you
im sorry for not watching how im saying my words the way im trying to but i just re read it and hope in a way u do understand . yes right now Im in that physical pain and emotionally for not my mind is not stable ..but to find my words to make it work in a way i can truly feel .. i do know it will take me to where I need to be by living the moment but healing in my ways ..thats all for now and before I make another mistake . its time for me to listen to my body now and u have urself a blessed day .
Hi!
One interesting thing I never used to do was forgive myself THAT DAY rather than waiting to start over the next morning. Also, I forced myself to be healthy for a week and used that feeling as motivation to avoid binging or stop binging.
It used to be I would eat too much, and I’d know that I didn’t feel great and was going to get a headache from the sugar and probably wake up the next day feeling like crap… and I’d think to myself “well the rest of today is a write-off – I might as well eat as much as I can now before I go back to being healthy.” Bad idea. Anyway, nowadays, even if I eat too much, I tell myself that I will feel better sooner rather than later, if I stop now and get myself back on track.
Another thing that really helped, is for about a week (before I got a job, so I had nothing better to do) I used all my willpower, all my brain power, to eat healthy for a an entire week (I’d never made it to a week before). And the result was noticeable – I felt significantly less tired, more energetic, and like my body could do everything it needs to (hah I don’t need coffee as a laxative or to stay awake!) So I wrote down how it felt to eat healthy, made a collage of pictures of healthy people doing healthy things (climbing stuff and handstands and so on), so I can look back whenever I need reminding of what I’m working towards.
I won't pretend to know how to solve your problem (but oh my goodness I'm glad there are others out there like me! I used to always wish I was addicted to cigarettes or something, because it just seemed simpler. Anyway I digress.)
You probably already do this, but drinking water while you eat helps with digestion. Now, everything I eat, I'll have a small bite then a sip of water. It's gotten to the point where if someone offers me food I don't enjoy it unless I have water as well. It was a huge breakthrough for me… it's better for digestion, it slows my eating so I realize I'm full, and (a wonderful thing I didn't expect) I'm able to control my eating better because when I don't have water I don't feel like i need to eat everything.
Good luck!
I suffer with BED but recently its got worse than ever i have just had a 6 day binge i dont think anyone could do to themselves what i have just done, the amount i have consumed each day is sickening. i now dont want to do anything or see anyone i feel gross inside and out and dont know who to talk to about it because no one i know would understand. everyone has 'bad days' where they have a few too many cookies but mine are disgusting i consume packets of cookies as a mere starter, croissants cakes, bread, doughnuts, ice cream and all more than one serving. i need serious help but feel like im a lost cause. i have been living in shanghai for the past 6 months and am returning home on saturday. i am dreading everyone seeing me this way
Thank you. I really needed this just now
I've eaten candy for the last 2 days – this is after not having anything like this in quite a while. I got frustrated and angry at work, and the Christmas candy called my name here in the office. My veggie bowl and hummus just didn't cut it – I wanted something that satisfied me more. And to make it worse, this morning I added a donut to the mix. I have to share that I have not eaten something like a donut in probably 2 years. I basically gave up sugar, and have now given up wheat.
As I was reading the article and comments, the same thought crept into my head: I'm a foodie. I like food, recipes, cooking, etc. For me, it's creative.
So here I sit, feeling guilty about eating 4 pieces of candy and a donut. So I made a cup of tulsi/chamonmile tea and pulled out my veggie container.
Life goes on, I guess. Thanks for listening.
It's OK. After all, we're all humans. We need sugar every once in a while to keep ourselves sane. Trust me, what you did was not wrong at all. Even the best food gurus do it. We're humans.
Happy New Year! 🙂
This blog post has helped many people, including me, and the spelling did not distract anyone from the heartfelt message and deeply healing words.
Thank you for this advice! This is the most realistic, self-nurturing advice I've read on this issue. Very kind and wise. Xxx Julia
I find it very unhealthy for your children to involve them in your own eating issues/disorders/slip-ups/however you'd like to call it. Children shouldn't grow up thinking that food is bad, or that mommy has an out of control switch and so it should be hidden. Food is just food. It's fuel. If you stop involving your kids in the drama you make up on your own head for overeating granola (seriously?), they could grow up without so many hang-ups on food that some many of us have to live with.
Hi Vanessa,
Hmm – I hadn't thought of it in that way before – thank you for sharing your views and thoughts with me. Your feelings make sense to me – if I'm hearing you correctly, it sounds like you feel strongly about not doing things that contribute to disordered eating.
That's my intention, too, and I'm glad we have that in common.
Thank you for the lively discussion.
Warmly, Karly
Hi Karly,
Thanks for writing about this topic. I found it very helpful, and I’m sure others will too. I agree with Vanessa’s comment, although I think it could have been phrased a bit more politely. I think you’re right about getting loved ones to help us with strategies against BED, but I don’t think it’s a good idea to involve children in any way. I know one of the things that has contributed to my BED and feelings towards weight in general was seeing my mother yo-yo diet all throughout my childhood. I’m in no place to give advice to you on parenting, but I think it might not be a good idea to recommend to readers that they enlist their children to “hide” food from them. This is an adult issue and could be very confusing to kids.
And to all the snippy comments about granola not being a binge food…those readers clearly don’t know what a binge is for those of us with an eating disorder. This isn’t just about having a bad dieting day and putting away a cheeseburger and large order of fries then regretting it. It’s not so much about what we eat, but more about how much we eat and our emotional, mental state while we’re eating. A binge can abuse any food…healthy or not…and that includes granola!
Hi Dawn,
Welcome to the site! Thank you for sharing your thoughts with me – I enjoyed reading your thoughts and perspective.
I think you’re absolutely right. When I was first healing my eating disorder, I didn’t realize that involving my kids was unhealthy (having children help an adult is a completely different ball of wax than having adult or family support.) I’m grateful that you and others pointed this out to me over the years. This shows some of my own stuckness, doesn’t it?
Oh, yes – any food – heck, broccoli even! – can be used as a binge food. The fact that granola was my favorite binge food doesn’t make my eating disorder any worse or less than others. It simply shows how my pain was expressed through food.
In love and care, Karly
This was so helpful. I just binged and feel awful. I have been having this problem since last year and still don't know how to deal with it or the reasons why it's happening to me. Hope I will find the strenght to change somehow.
May I ask what the heck is so guilt laden about granola?? While I see the connection, I came to this post to learn about ways to deal with binging. That just made me feel worse about it because eating granola is so not close to binging.
I often binge when I am feeling stressed and then fall into the trap of binge, purge, self hate leading again to stress, then binge, purge etc.
It is a horrible cycle and I desperately need help. My binges seem out of control, going for high carbohydrate type meals such as pastas, breads, sweets and my binges can go up to 3000 calories in a day or 1500 calories in one sitting.
I had found a way to break the cycle a few months ago which was just by stopping my purging after a binge and consuming tons of water, fruit and veg the next day with exercise. This slowly developed into normal eating habits though recently I have fallen into the trap again.
I need to break this cycle and I don't think this article is giving me any help. Could anyone give me some ideas of meal plans to go by after a binge? How can I control my cravings and emotions?
I relate so much to your binging. I just had a whole pack of tim tams and ice cream, then ended up binging on pie, pasta, chicken and noodles to try get rid of that sugary high and now I feel disgusting. I don't know what to do but i do feel a bit better that I am not the only one with this problem.
Hi Isabella,
I can definitely understand your pain and frustration. It’s so painful to feel caught in bingeing and purging, and all the shame that comes with it.
My friend, it sounds like you’re trying to control your bingeing, cravings and emotions. Suppressing our feelings only works for so long, doesn’t it? And then those feelings come roaring up to the surface, and often do so in the form of a binge…
That’s what I tried to do for my 20 years of eating disorders – but it left me heartbroken, discouraged, ashamed of my emotions (and I’m a passionate, sensitive person who feels deeply!), and even more stuck in my bulimia and binge eating.
What helped me change my habits was something that sounds counterintuitive and even a bit scary: allowing, accepting, and caring for my feelings and cravings – moving towards them and feeling them more, not less – rather than trying to stuff them, control them, or keep them down.
This works because we’re feeling our feelings and caring for our humanity rather than trying to keep this energy down (which is impossible!) The binge eating is merely our coping strategy – how we cope with all this suppressed emotional energy that’s in our bodies.
So here’s a few tools that may help – have you grabbed the free Binge Rescue worksheet here?
http://healovereating.com/binge-rescue/
Also, you may enjoy this podcast on befriending emotions.
http://www.firstourselves.org/allowing-our-feelings/
Lastly, here’s an article on befriending cravings – http://blogs.naturalnews.com/5-ways-to-say-no-to-sugar-with-compassion/
In love and care, Karly
Hi Michele,
Ah – granola has been one of my all time favorite binge foods. When I would buy granola, I would eat a 1 pound bag of granola, with yogurt, until I felt sick.
It sounds like granola isn't a binge food for you, though.
Warmly, Karly
Dear Karly,
I have a serious binging problem and it's getting worse and worse. I resort to purging, fasting, and pill taking, and it's horrible. I have no solutions at all to stop it- I feel like i've tried anything and still have no control over my eating. Sometimes I feel like food just takes about 90% of my life. I just really want to stop, but I don't know how, and it's upsetting.
Bella,
How lovely that your name is beauty. I’m so sorry to hear that you’re struggling and appreciate the fear and confusion of feeling so out of control with food. A few thoughts – it sounds like you could use some support. Have you told anyone how you’re struggling? I would gently encourage you to reach out to a trusted person and share your struggles.
In my own life, I struggled with eating disorders for decades because I felt so ashamed by them – I didn’t want anyone to know, and so I hid them as best as I could. In doing so, I also kept myself from the support that could help me.
Secondly, this free tool, The Binge Rescue worksheet, is a way to self soothe the feelings that lead to a binge. You can download it here: http://healovereating.com/binge-rescue/
For a long time, I thought my bingeing and overeating was about the food (and my inability to control my weight or my desire for food.) I was always trying to control how much I ate because I wanted to be thinner. I thought the way to cure my bingeing was to simply find greater control.
But later I realized that it wasn’t really about the food at all: I was bingeing and overeating because of uncomfortable feelings I didn’t want to feel, and food was the only way I knew how to comfort myself. So healing my binge eating wasn’t about controlling/fixing/cutting out my out of control eating, but about learning new skills in how I relate to my pain and feelings. This worksheet is a good place to start to connect with and care for the feelings that are under a binge.
Sending you hugs of love,
In love and care,
Karly
Karly,
I think this is a wonderful post. I find the days following a binge to be the hardest because I feel as though I am just waiting to see the consequences of my actions. The horrible waiting sensation and feeling of regret can be overwhelming particularly if I had been eating clean for a long stretch prior to the binge. It amazes me how long it takes to get to a place were you start to feel confident and how quickly all of it disappears.
Hi Jenni,
Oh, my friend – I can understand that space so well. It’s so painful to feel caught in something that seems to get the better of us, isn’t it? And the ebb and flow of confidence and despair with food can feel frustrating.
You might find this post helpful –
http://www.firstourselves.org/doubt/
And this post on healing the voice of hopelessness –
http://www.firstourselves.org/healing-voice-of-hopelessness/
Both of these posts are based on teachings from The 30 Day Lift, which I have a hunch would be very healing for you –
http://www.sugar-addiction-book.com/30-day-lift/
In love and care, Karly
My friend, you may also like this podcast on how to care for ourselves when we make a mistake:
http://www.firstourselves.org/when-mistakes-happe…
(I hope I'm not overwhelming you with links – I just get excited to share things that I think will meet you where you're at and speak to your heart. 🙂
In love and care, Karly
Thanks for posting this. As a guy, it’s tougher for me to find people who can fully relate to me with these issues. It’s not masculine to discuss problems with binge-eating, so I have that x-factor that the majority of people (women) posting about the subject don’t have to deal with. My main issue is when I binge early in the morning. It’s one thing to start fresh the next day, but when I down a bag of Doritos before lunch time, I never know how to not just give up on the day. Lunch is usually only an hour or so away, so do I just skip lunch and try and wait for dinner and eat something healthy then? Probably. But my reaction is usually to just say the day is lost, and to get some McDonalds or something since “I’m gonna eat healthy starting tomorrow and will never get to have fast food again, so might as well indulge in it now since today is already lost”. Like it ever actually works that way in reality. And the cycle continues..
Hi Brian,
I can imagine that it’s difficult to be vulnerable and find support as a man struggling with binge eating – difficult, and lonely. I have two sons, and sometimes I ache that our culture doesn’t allow men to be more vulnerable. Thank you for sharing your struggle and feelings with all of us, so we can understand what it’s like for you.
My friend, a few thoughts. I find that people tend to either binge in the morning or at the afternoon/end of the day. Yes, and it’s so common once you start bingeing to then go to a space of, “The hell with it. I’ll just start over tomorrow.” I have been there – and many times.
When we go to a “hell with it space,” we’ve lost our integrative functioning: our ability to hold onto 2 opposing thoughts or feelings. All we can see is the mistake and that there’s no solace. Fortunately, we can support ourselves so we can find our integrative functioning. I talk more about how to mix feelings in this blog post here:
http://www.firstourselves.org/kindly-change-food-habits/
As for morning bingeing – on an emotional level – it’s often due to gearing yourself up for the day – it’s how we soften inner tension or soothe anxiety. I talk about this in much further detail in my Heal Overeating: Untangled program, but for now I’ll say that we feel anxious because we’re trying to push away feelings – something that’s arising in us. Then this leads to inner tension as we try and push down these feelings, or as we battle between two sides of us – the part of us that wants to self soothe in a binge, and the other part of us that doesn’t want to use food for solace. This tension between our opposing desires starts to feel overwhelming, and so we end up eating to lower the tension. It works – the tension is soothed – but then we feel discouraged for bingeing.
I talk more about how to soothe this pattern in this video blog: http://www.firstourselves.org/video-sugar-binge-devil/
The video is about sugar, but feel free to substitute any food that you tend to binge on.
You may also find this binge rescue worksheet and audio to be a helpful resource: http://healovereating.com/order-binge-rescue-audio/
You can also use The Binge Rescue worksheet to soothe yourself after a binge. It can help move you through your emotions so that you’re able to soften your thinking about how the day is ruined.
In love and care, Karly
hey thanks for the help but what about if there,s jus one special day that you ate waaaaaaaaaay too much sugar and the next two -3 days you are not hungry but nauseous basically after a sugar binge ,should I force myself to eat ?
Hi Emma,
Great question! I answer it here, in this blog post on recovering from a sugar binge: http://www.firstourselves.org/help-halloween-suga…
Warmly, Karly
Hi, I've gone from way too much control over what I eat to now some nights I have no control at all. Tonight I binge ate on crackers, chocolate and a lot of peanut butter and it doesn't feel good like usual so I looked up some help and found this. These tips are so helpful and it's a lot easier seeing someone in the same boat as myself. No one I know gets the urge to binge and they do not understand my guilt after either or why I can't simply just stop. Ideas and methods to help me cope are much needed and I thank you for taking the time to post them.
Much thanks,
Alex
I remember being at my heaviest 320lbs (at 6″2) and finally realizing (at the age of 17) that I had to do somthing or I was going to die young of a heart attack so I killed myself for 1.5 years loseing the weight by dieting, pulling 3 A DAYS, diet pills anything I could do! Finally I (what I thought) was an O.K. Weight (155lbs) completely skin and bones no kidding I stopped exercising so much but I never stopped with the reduction of calories… I ended up finishing each day in the NEGATIVE working out so much that I burned to the point where I’d go into the negative with calories! It sucked but I didn’t want to get fat agein. The only time I realized that it was time to stop doing that was seeing my crying mother at my bedside telling me to stop.. So I ate more and gained about 25 lbs back and joined the Marine Corps.. I made it through boot camp (barely) being skin and bones and all and I’ve come to a dilemma… Im indeed still in the Corps but I find myself binging again… I do workout daily at least twice to stay in that Marine Corps shape but I still binge… I am now about 220lbs at 6″3 and I think I look like well terrible but others tell me I look great.. I lift and do a exceptional amount of cardio.. But as the weekend rolls around BOOM I FALL OFF THE WAGON… It’s embarrassing as a male Marine haveing a BED especially all the stuff I’ve been through… What do I do! I need help.
Hi Philip,
I’m glad that you were vulnerable, shared your story, and reached out for help. My friend, it sounds like you have a lot of fear and alarm/anxiety about gaining weight and going back to your heavier weight. This fear then causes you to restrict and try and control your body through diet and exercise. But it sounds like your goals for your eating and body size are really high, so you end up overrestricting and bingeing in response.
In my experience, we fall off the wagon because the wagon is really an impossible tight rope: we’re trying to do the impossible. Then when we “fail” we blame ourselves, rather than questioning our expectations for how we should eat, care for our bodies, or how much we should weigh.
I was bulimic for many, many years, and one of the triggers for my bulimia was this “tight rope” cycle. Because I was always unhappy about the extra 15-20 pounds I carried, I was always trying to lose weight. So the solution to my weight loss (and body acceptance) woes was to eat a perfect diet.
But I couldn’t do it. I tried and tried, but couldn’t do it. (Then I merely tried harder and harder to do what was really impossible!) Every time I slipped from this ideal of “perfect eating,” I believed the sky was falling. It was the end of the world. So I would either purge, overexercise, or fast the next day to “make up” for my mistake. And the cycle went around and around and around…
Oh, this cycle is so painful.
I know it may feel counterintuitive and even scary, but the way to soften this pattern is to come more into the middle. I had to let go of my “perfect ideal diet” expectations, to soften them a bit and to find something that was more merciful. And I had to practice caring for the fear and anxiety that triggered my restrictive parts.
I hear your desire to care for your body and your desire to be healthy, fit and strong. My friend, you can have these things without eating a perfect diet.
I also reached out to George Bryant of Civilized Caveman Cooking, a former Marine who also struggled with an eating disorder. This is what he said: “Ask for help, something I didn’t do in the Marine corps. Either call a hotline or go to your medical and ask. You’re not in trouble for having this and you need help.”
I’m cheering you on,
In love and care, Karly
I needed this article right now =/
Hi,I feel sick right now.):
Karly,
I’ve done countless google searches for a solution to my disordered eating, but nothing has ever helped me to feel in control in the last few years. I started to feel my worse once I entered college and my closest friend became obsessed with health and body image. I was pulled into this world, and began obsessing with the way I looked as well, but could never reach my image and healthy eating goals. I have also always been highly drawn to sugar, and over the last year have developed an insane addiction that I feel extremely helpless to. Being in school and having very high career goals, I am constantly under stress about my grades and my future. I spend a great deal of time alone because it is necessary for me to focus. And I wouldn’t change my major or future plans for the world. But it also gives me long periods of time to binge on sugar in an attempt to relieve the stress. I know I have a problem, but nothing I do ever seems to fix it. I’ve looked for support, but most people do not understand unless they have gone through something similar themselves. Plus it’s been so long that I feel like a total bother to others by continuing to ask for help, and continuing to let them down.
Besides asking friends for help and attempting to eat completely clean (and always failing), I have also attempted exercise that makes me feel good. I love yoga and love running, and even ran a half marathon recently. These things always temporarily boost my confidence and make me feel good. But again, with my tight schedule and stress levels, I always lose motivation and give up my periods of exercise in an attempt to get more work done behind my desk. I don’t know how to maintain a healthy diet and exercise schedule when I feel too overwhelmed with my pile of work. As much as I crave a good run, I feel like I should not let myself leave my books.
I have never sought professional help because I always end up telling myself it’s not that hard; that I just need to gain willpower or completely remove bad food from my presence or stop eating for a few days to shrink my stomach. But these things never work. Replacing my eating habits with healthier habits such as writing or drawing do seem to help either. Do you have any advice for me at all? I’m getting really desperate. Thanks.
Hi Natalie,
It sounds like you are hurting! It also sounds like you’re trying to control your desire for food or sugar with a super clean diet or with exercise. I would gently invite you to open to the idea that control and will power aren’t the answers or the solution.
There’s a reason why you’re feeling driven to have a certain body and there’s a reason why you’re feeling driven to eat. The only way to unwind the behavior is to uncover what’s really going on underneath the food.
Fortunately, you don’t have to do journey alone! I would gently encourage you to get professional help. As you’re a student, you can start by turning to your student health facilities – most universities have a counseling office that is there just to help students if they’re needing support.
A counselor could help you find ways to soften the stress so that you’re not feeling so driven to self soothe with food or through exercise. And they may be able to help you unwind the need to drive yourself so hard in the first place, and soften the obsession with food, the body and weight.
Healing is possible! I believe that you can heal and find peace with food and your body. And I do think that the best way to heal is to get outside support.
Love, Karly
These comments are EVERYTHING I have been feeling and realising. Thanks.
I literally meant, “what do I do right now if I’ve eaten too much sugar?” As in, should I eat some protein or some certain vitamins? Not, “please forgive yourself.” Forgive myself for what? That box of seasonal maple cookies was awesome, I just feel ill.
Hi Monica,
Great question! Check the first part of the post, ways to support your physical body after a binge, to see some suggestions on foods that help, like fermented foods, broth based soups, and probiotics. Also, as this isn’t my specialty, you might find helpful tips from a nutritionist or health coach.
Here are two that come to mind:
Donna Smith – http://sugarfreeme.ca/
and Richele Henry – http://www.richelehenry.com
Warmly, Karly
Something I found helpful after eating too much sugar, especially if carbs were involved, was sipping chicken broth. Something organic, look at ingredients and don’t get it if additives are in it. Some boxed broths even have sugar in them…jeez, the things companies do.
Fennel tea helps with gas. Mint tea helps with bloat. Lemon juice in tea or even a tablespoon of Apple cider vinegar actually can help a little with moving things along through the system…I’m not a nutritionist but these are home remedies my grandmother has used for me when I was a little kid.
Thank you for this site. It is very helpful, comforting and has come to my aid. 😀
X
So glad Idris!
Oh my goodness. I stumbled upon this article after searching for nutritional advice on how to eat after a bad binge. I have to say that as someone who struggled with absolutely life consuming bulimia for over 7 years (I’ve been in recovery now for 3 years), this is the most comprehensive, genuine, intuitive advice I have ever come across. I’ve recently come up against some major stressors in life, and bingeing (though thankfully not purging) has resurfaced as an unhealthy coping mechanism of mine. Your wisdom transcends even the strategies and introspective knowledge that I was able to glean from my hospitalization and treatment for bulimia at John’s Hopkins. Thank you sincerely. I will keep this article close and continue to explore your other publications.
Hi Eden,
I’m so glad that this was helpful to you, and gave you some tools and a perspective that brings relief!
When stressors increase, it’s understandable that you can find comfort and relief in bingeing again – of course. It’s a bit of a paradox, but when we’re feeling overwhelmed, scared, or stressed, bingeing, purging, or overeating can help us feel safe, calm and secure – which is why we do them, even as they also cause distress.
You may find this page helpful here, as it offers a lot of information on the inner dynamics that lead to bingeing – and how to offer yourself support –
https://growinghumankindness.com/overeating-support/
And if you haven’t already, try the Binge Rescue worksheet, a free tool that has helped lots of people soothe the impulse to binge (or soothe your nervous system after bingeing) – https://growinghumankindness.com/binge-rescue/
Warmly, Karly
Thank you.
I have saved this as a bookmark. It helps a lot reading your entry as you have a very calming way of reminding what comes next and how to analyze the emotions coming with binge eating.
I’m very glad I googled how to cope and found you.
Love, Ari
Hi Ari,
How nice to meet you! I’m glad that this post feels calming to you and gives you suggestions on how to care for yourself. You may also find this article helpful – https://growinghumankindness.com/binge-cry-connection/
Warmly,
Karly
This forum is amazing! Thank you Karly for opening it up to me and those of us who live with BED. It’s early Sunday morning and I’m just reflecting on last night’s binge. I relate to so many of the things shared here and yet I think my biggest frustration in this moment is that I want to be free from this vicious cycle and way of living for good. Considering I can look back at my childhood and recall binges even then, I’m doubting I will ever be entirely free from this disorder. That is what is hardest for me to deal with. It’s like knowing I was born with something I don’t like about myself (like a deformed hand or diabetes) and wishing it would be normal. I believe acceptance is probably a key part of the solution, but I think I play games with that by accepting this fact and then taking it back again in exchange for wishful thinking. Then I get mad. Not a great way to live as all have attested here in one way or another. It’s an exhausting burden this binge eating deal. It takes so much from us and makes us think about ourselves constantly which is so tragic and painful. Today I’ll go to church and like many other Sunday’s after a Saturday night binge, I’ll struggle desperately to remember why I came versus being consumed with shame and being anxious about anyone noticing if I’ve gained weight or look heavy. I will choose to press on no matter what, but I think I’ll always carry the wishful thinking. In the meantime, it really encourages me to know that I am not alone. Thank you again for bearing your own heart and creating this safe space to share our common struggle.
Hey karly!
And I thought I was the only one in this battle.!! I loved the post and found it very useful.Thank you so much K for the time and effort u took to write this down.Hope you continue healing others! Blessings!
Me 😀
So glad it was helpful to you Jaimie!
genuinely cried after reading this… first time ive even attempted to change and heal in any way after a lomg restriction and binge
So glad this moved you G! I’m guessing those tears are connected to something very tender, and precious.
I have a hunch you may also like this post – https://growinghumankindness.com/binge-cry-connection/
thank you deeply for this
You’re welcome Hallina!
This is so good. #6 is my favorite. Thank you.
Hi Rich,
Ah, yes – bringing in self compassion. I think we can all use mercy when we make mistakes! Thank you for writing about your experience.