Because overeating can feel so painful and frustrating, it’s easy to feel victimized by it. When we feel victimized by something, we tend to feel powerless, ashamed, and often deeply frightened. You may experience this as a sense of terror or … [Read more]
Facing the vulnerability of addiction
How do we relate to what is young, and tender, and fragile - including what is young, and tender and fragile in us? This is the question that addiction asks of us. Recently, a friend of mine quit a chewing tobacco habit. Chewing was something he'd … [Read more]
Let’s stop seeing overeating as a ‘moral failure’
Overeating is so often misunderstood, devalued, and feared. Overeating is so painful, and equally frustrating – something you long not to do but find yourself doing anyway. It can bring up embarrassment and shame about being “so out of control.” In … [Read more]
Caring for the longing for the ‘perfect mother’
Over the years, many men and women have asked me a version of this question: “I keep looking for something in the food. I keep hoping. I keep searching. But what am I searching for?” It’s a great question, and one that points to our deepest … [Read more]
How to eat less sugar without ‘white knuckling it’
If you struggle with eating too much sugar or a sugar addiction, or if you simply want to transition into a low sugar diet, you may need to set some internal boundaries around how much sugar you eat. To do that, you need to gently, kindly and … [Read more]
What to do when you feel powerless and collapse into overeating
When you’re in a grounded, secure emotional space, it’s easy to say no to the impulse to binge, overeat, restrict, or purge. But what happens when you feel powerless, hopeless, or helpless? When you’re in this emotional space, you can believe you’ll … [Read more]
How to find healing in a sugar binge
As you walk your journey with sugar, it's common to find moments of healing and awareness - where you feel ease, peace and consciousness about the sugar that you're eating - only to find yourself caught in a sugar binge or painful cravings. Ouch, … [Read more]
Why longing for sugar isn’t a problem
For those of us in the North, we're descending into the dark time of the year. It is a natural and rich time to explore the depths within us, including the depths of our relationship with food and sugar. In the stillness and the darkness, I invite … [Read more]
The new life that lies under listening
This past year I went through a challenging time with one of my children: butting heads, misunderstanding, hurt. Ugh. I felt scared and discouraged and sad. I felt ground down, tired. I felt frustrated how, despite my intentions, the conflict was … [Read more]
Healing the shame of craving
When we’re feeling stuck in a compulsive, obsessive, painful relationship with sugar, we tend to long for one of three things: to cut out our cravings, our desire and longings for the food to cut out eating the particular food or food group … [Read more]
Why food compulsions are healed in relationship
Someone once asked me what’s the cause of sugar addiction, overeating, and body compulsions. “Separation and loss,” I said. Then someone else asked why these things are so pervasive and tricky to heal. “The same … [Read more]
The power of being loved
There’s a stanza in a Tracy Chapman song, At This Point In My Life, that goes like this: At this point in my life I’ve done so many things wrong I don’t know if I can do right If you put your trust in me I hope I won’t let you down If you give … [Read more]
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